Why people judge older women married to younger men so harshly (especially when compared to older men with younger women)?

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Why people judge older women married to younger men so harshly (especially when compared to older men with younger women)?
I'm married to a man 16 years younger than me. I've been with him for a total of 2.5 years. Even now we still get a fair amount of judgement from many others about our age gap. This is especially true since I (the woman) am the older one in the marriage. When the roles are reversed and an older man dates a younger woman, the men are often congratulated and revered. However, when people find out I have a younger husband I often get shocked or cringe looks. People are often imply that our marriage can't last and/or we can't live a normal life/have a normal marriage due to our age gap. I also hate it when people call me a cougar. It implies women married to younger men are desperate "predators" on the hunt for younger men (when in fact he was the one who pursued me in our relationship. He actually had to work to convince me to give him a chance because I was originally concerned with the age gap). Conversely, there's no word for a man married to a younger woman. People also often assume he's likely just married to me for my money (when in fact he's been making more money than me for the past year). People will also assume I'm only with him because I'm having a midlife crisis (I'm not). What's more is that it's not uncommon for people to act as if we're doing something morally wrong for being in a relationship together due to the age gap.
Why is it so hard for people to believe we genuinely have a loving, healthy, normal marriage (that is actually a lot better than my previous marriage to a man my age)? Why is there so much extra judgement when an older woman dates a younger man than when the roles are reversed?
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One exception is that I can understand why his parents were initially upset by our relationship. They were worried I was either too old to have kids or had no interest in having any more kids. However, once I got pregnant they became completely fine with our marriage.
Why people judge older women married to younger men so harshly (especially when compared to older men with younger women)?
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