Do you agree there is no excuse to not message, call, etc. someone FIRST at least at a couple of times a year if they actually cared?

[Steven80000]

If you care about that family member or friend, it doesn't matter if you are an introvert, etc if you cared about them , it wouldn't hurt for you to message or call them FIRST at least a couple of times a year, other than for urgent things, big things, birthdays, etc. The other person having to nearly all the time hit you up first is not true friendship, familyship.

[slatyb]

It takes two people to not call. Are your calls going unanswered?

[Steven80000]

I'm saying it has to go both ways and not the same person mostly initiating.

[slatyb]

That may be true, that's up to you. I mostly call my brother but when I do we often talk for an hour. He is happy to spend time with me so I don't worry much about who initiates the call.

[Steven80000]

It depends on context. I had an ex friend who mostly only contacted me first for favors, when something of an emergency happen, birthdays, etc. but other than that hardly ever first and than I told him numerous times to call me first at times or text me first at times and sometimes he did but he mostly went with the same shit. Do you agree that is different because I told him to stop and than all of a sudden he made the time to hit me up first for other things?

[slatyb]

Sounds like he's a user, not really a friend. I would drop him.

[Steven80000]

I did drop him. He wasn't like that before he moved to another state to be with his online Romantic partner. You replied before actually to this friend saying he brought up how I told him to look at women's asses in 2016, when I told him how I am tired of his shit. And you replied '"he sounds annoying, why are you still friends with him?" Remember that slaty? He brought up old shit when I called him out on his shit and he didn't even meet his online romantic partner yet. And he called me an adulterer for it, etc. Tf.

[Steven80000]

What do you think of him after my last message?

[Steven80000]

What do you think of him?

[msc545]

I don't think it matters who calls who first. It's just a trivial issue compared to many others that are much more important.