Question for the over 40’s , does it really matter how much you text the person you’re seeing, or how long before you reply?

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I (40) have been seeing a man (40) for 4 months who lives an hour away and lives a very busy/stressful life atm. I am always the one to reach out, plan to see each other etc

I must add that he used to be very open with how he felt about me, would flirt, sext ext. the last month or so all of that has stopped. He has admitted he’s so stressed and lack of sleep etc from work and study is affecting his moods.

He’s been taking ages to respond to my messages, and sometimes doesn’t until I text again later that day or the next day. Now, I have been out of the dating game for a long time and I think I have been listening too much to younger guys and girls who talk about these texting rules and if he’s not texting you much he’s not interested etc and it’s making me overthink. But then I think, we are both grown adults, with kids, work and lots of responsibilities, now, I can be busy and still constantly think about him and like to hear from him but he will admit when he’s stressed and busy he doesn’t think about me, he’s just trying to concentrate on the tasks at hand.
Does all of this matter or should I trust that if he didn’t want me, he would just end it. I worry he’s lost feeling about then I also know he wouldn’t play me and I know I’m the only woman he is seeing. There is trust there
Question for the over 40’s , does it really matter how much you text the person you’re seeing, or how long before you reply?
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