If a person consistently takes too long to answer your messages, would you consider that enough of a reason to stop talking to the person?

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(By too long I mean more than a day.)

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

Good question.
I'd say that it would depend. I know some people that are bad texters and I'm one myself, and I understand that they might not reply in a timely fashion because they might be busy or need some time to mull over the text and formulate the answer.
I don't like spamming others or being spammed with messages, so I generally wait some time before replying to formulate an all encompassing answer if the subject is deep enough - naturally I answer as soon as possible to a simple ''How are you?'' or important or work-related things if I'm not busy.
I do my best to answer all kinds of messages and texts, except the spam of images/videos and on social media random people who just write ''hello''.

As for texting other people, I try to put their personalities into context to understand their way of messaging back - some people don't message back because they are busy or quickly get ''texting fatigue'' - yes, that's a thing - others just ignore. In the first case, I understand they read the message and appreciate it, and take their time in answering because of the reasons listed above - so I keep communicating with them because I know that they enjoy our communication. In the second case, I disengage - I migth be bothering them and it would be useless to waste my time and theirs for a communication they don't want.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

No. It would make me hate them, but I would still talk to them.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

No I wouldn't. I have a cousin who is a doctor and I sent him a text. He replied to me almost 3 weeks later. I think that if someone takes more than a day to respond that person should apologize and/or give you an explanation. That's being courteous. I have another cousin who if he takes a while to respond he gets back to me and lets me know what took him so long.

If it's a friend doing this (or really anyone, not just cousins) I don't like it but I understand why people may take a while to respond like they're very busy or they forgot. There was a guy I was friendly with and he once took 6 days to respond to me. He ended up blocking me though (don't know why)

Christine8 · Accepted Answer

If it was someone who you are wanting to date than yes I would not go there.
If that person is so busy they can not even respond to a quick text that is just selfish and they are showing they just don’t care and would not be a good partner.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

If it's an occurring thing yes...
Especially if they make bullshit excuses that are lies, like say they were sleeping when you can see they actively online or you talking to the other person they talking to as they telling you they were asleep🤦
If someone repeatedly acts like they too busy for you or don't make time for you, well that's someone I wouldn't have time for either🤷

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Depends how often you see each other, personal habits, and I guess context.

are you/they texting for attention or are texting to solicit information. Ignoring someone about a restaurant reservation is much ruder than ignoring their buzzfeed quiz. Lol.

Overall if they fail to match your enthusiasm, it's probably best to cut them loose

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It greatly depends on their work type.

and if you have discussed it in previous texts about time to reply.

even with my mates I’m shit at replying to something.

I am often the offender in being slow to reply, if it’s important or needs a reply I will, the thing is, a lot of texts are closed and there is no real question or way of replying.

you ask then a question about what they did to day, they then reply and say went shopping.

With that being the text you reply from …. No enquiry on how my day went, or even oh I got some good bargains, it’s just another question back, so it’s not a rush to reply.

Tunasub · Answer

At that point (more than a day) there is no respect from them regarding what you have to say or for you in general.

I would and have stopped texting people for that reason.. it takes less than a minute to text back "I'll get back to you tomorrow"

Show me that I didn't matter and I will make it so.. it's just that simple.

ToastyOats · Answer

I get that we're all different and have unique tastes and personalities but honestly a lot of people just need to change. This guy lacks empathy and enthusiasm for you and probably all women. I've been lucky enough to date a woman where we both asked each other if we were texting to much and neither of us cared. We genuinely just wanted to be talking to eachother. Thats what you need.

Agape93 · Answer

If I know they're too busy or stressed to answer, I'm fine with it.

But when I see you consistently talking other people and ignoring me, I have an issue. Even more so when I reach out with mental health issues and not only do you ignore me for months, but you have the audacity to act like everything is ok. Now THAT is when we will have a serious problem and ill just stop talking to you. I will no longer tolerate that shit.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Sometimes people get busy, or they forget to answer. Even some of my best friends don't answer for a couple of days sometimes.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I probably would act the exact same way, I would be way too be busy to constantly text. But how would I feel about the situation being done on me, I just probably won't care. She might be incredibly busy too but if I catch her with another guy who isn't family or friends of course I probably just leave her. The probably would react the exact same way if she seen me with another girl who isn't family or friends, I just ain't into cheaters.

Ailaw22 · Answer

I think I'm currently in that position from taking too each day every day now it almost feel like the other person is giving me anxiety , I tried to confront her but still words didn't match actions.
So I think stop expecting is best way.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yikes! I'm that person! I'm not consistent one way or the other. Sometimes I'm busy. I like to give my full attention, so it might take me a day to find 5 minutes to read and give a proper response. I guess I'd better step it up!

sarahlumpkin · Answer

How well do you know about their lives/routine that might keep them away from looking at messages for more than one day.

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

no, you're dealing with someone who just doesn't have the time. If it's always the same time every 24hrs then you're dealing with a passive aggressive person

Livewire3 · Answer

I don't even answer that fast all the time with siblings I like. Of course if that is your requirement than that is your requirement. It doesn't make it right or wrong, just a preference.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If someone you text takes all day to text you back sure that is signs to give them space or maybe move on

Robert123456789 · Answer

I once got dumped and abused for not replying to a text message within 4 hours. I was so busy at work i couldnt reply and when i grabbed my phone to send a nice "i love you" message I checked and got a message saying "you are a bastard its over you are dumped". It was so hurtful.

@Christine8

MissDebra1 · Answer

It would make me stop messaging them first, but not stop me from all together being their friend or talking with them.

Emmam298 · Answer

Looking at the results I guess guys are more patient. Lol

Open2It · Answer

First, I would have a conversation with that person... there may be a valid reason

CordetteMonet · Answer

No, they might be really busy or they might not be in the mood to talk.

Paris13 · Answer

Depends. Some are too Busy or Too Busy to Care. Or just Not into Texting. xx

legalboxers · Answer

I dropped my friend for that. For 5 years they did this shit to me. I said Im done

misterCage4 · Answer

If it's consistent yeah. I might just stop talking talking to them because of it.

dustybiker · Answer

I almost miss the days of dial up…. Everyone expects instant gratification these days.

Wiredone · Answer

Sometimes people, like me, get busy and they don't have time to answer

exitseven · Answer

What the heck? More than a day? I am not that impatient.

Somegirl408 · Answer

definitely yes, i would cut them off

tropicalbreeze · Answer

Yeah I guess I couldn't see a future with her haha

Hillary86 · Answer

Not necessarily they could be at work just getting to it.

karaspara · Answer

Yes I would not bother after that

WowwGirl · Answer

No not at all people are busy

PeterCharie1991 · Answer

Had this happen me many times on dating apps

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes if it happens more than two days straight

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes of course I don’t have time for that

Hulk30 · Answer

ya have to consider how serious ya actually are

vald9inches · Answer

Life is busy and introverts exist 🤷

blondfrog · Answer

yah i'd mov eon.

Dave576 · Answer

People are busy

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