Some people don’t think that I understand the capacity it takes to have kids one day. What should I do about this?

[Beautylover9]

All because I have mild autism and a mild intellectual disability they think I don’t understand the capacity it takes to have a baby and the steps and don’t want me having kids because of it and they make me go on birth control for as long as possible because of this. What can I do about this? I do understand what it takes to have a baby and know how to take care of one. I’m 30 and know what it’s all about. I’m not that severely mentally challenged and going to have kids one day no matter what. It seems like no one wants me having kids. It’s not my fault I was born with this disability. What should I do?

[MrChinaski]

If you are capable of supporting yourself and a child independently from friends, family and the Government, then go for it. Otherwise, don't. Far better to not have a child than to raise a child poorly. I have raised two children in ideal circumstances and it has still been overwhelming at times.

Some others in the thread have said something similar.

[fish5505_87]

If you are 30, nobody should "make you do anything"

[Staximus]

How many kids have you actually taken care of in your life? If you have issues with sensory overload, or you find situations where things don’t go your way overwhelming then you shouldn’t have kids. Sit in a room all day with somebody who has a crying baby and see how you deal and feel about that. You have no business having kids if you can’t even take care of yourself and act like a responsible adult

[exitseven]

okay, let's say that you have a baby someday. How will you support this baby? Are you currently supporting yourself? It is not fair to bring a life into the world to have to live in poverty.

[Monoc]

Who says that to you?

[Beautylover9]

My therapist and a lot of people that know me. And they make me take my birth control as long as possible. What should I do about this?

[Monoc]

Do as you want, you are an autonomous person, not controlled by others

[Beautylover9]

I will thanks

[Staximus]

You need to listen to your therapist

[Staximus]

The fact that you are disregarding what your therapist says sues that you are not even responsible enough to take care of yourself, let alone a child

[Staximus]

Shows

[moddy_the_mod]

Find a man and marry him would be step one

[msc545]

Have kids.