I totally understand that nobody’s going to have parenthood 100% correct it’s just not gonna happen. We know what happened with Jesus what is hard to not have any plans no support no nothing and throwing caution to the wind. No foundation and yes, I’m a little envious that I can’t be carefree. I would struggle hard to make it happen for my child but it’s hard. Was rough on myself not understanding finances, self discipline and still working on it. Still wanting a relationship healthy
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I’m not taking away from anybody that has children. I just want to, make sure that I have some stability
How are so women able to have child with no plans or am I putting to much pressure on myself?
I want to have kids and I m envious about people my age who has kids.
But i am a careful person and I don't want my future kids to struggle. I want to study and work a lot and save much for a future.
If I become pregnant before I reach my goals, then it's alright, I m going to do my best to take care of the children. I am not against abortion, but I don't even want to abort my future babies. I want to experience being pregnant and all that about motherhood, but I also don't mind adopting kids.
I short, I mean that I want to have kids when the time feels more right or stable. I need to finish school in order to open more doors for myself and my future kids, be financially stable ( a car, an appartement/house, saved money for the kids), I need to have time to be there for the kids... And so on
You don’t have the financial means for a child despite wanting one. Acknowledging that is not a bad thing, it’s just recognizing how little the people in charge of the status quo actually want the people at the bottom to succeed and get what they need to have the life they want. By all means, have a childcare plan before having a kid.
Trust and believe I would love everybody to make it because you have a child to take care of Bill Shape and (Mold) to be the next generation. It’s just difficult in a while to do it alone to be padded on the back for something that you could also opt out of not doing For a minute seems reasonable I I was born to older parents. I’m OK.
I remember back in the late 90's, I knew a young lady who had two kids. She said that kids were the kind of thing you don't plan, that you just have them and deal with it later. Well, she and her husband and two kids lived with her parents and were mostly supported by them. So much for lack of planning... Anyway I'm glad that you are smarter than that and you're not just cranking them out!
Great question. I have no idea how anybody has a child without a plan or resources. Even when I was a homeowner and making a good salary I still thought I wasn't quite ready
The fact tht u r concerned is a proof tht everything will sorted in a great way n u will be a great parent... i had twin boys 6 n half years ago n they were unplanned... i had never thought of having kids then but now i live my boys the most
You’re gonna make me cry thank you I appreciate it. I am learning day by day and writing down stuff as I go. I have friends that have children and I know it’s difficult tearing up as I type. I’m not taking away from anybody that has children. I just want to, make sure that I have some stability
Well, you know for God love the world that he gave his only begotten son to give your child up habit child and give his child up then remember old dude had to walk his child up the mountain to get killed. I’m afraid to let my child die. It’s so many repercussions of having a child and not being able to take care of them, I’m afraid simply
That's why I said don't have a child until you're in a stable marriage. Having a child under the wrong circumstances is a bad choice for the child. That is the biggest cause of the huge increase in fatherless children over the last few decades, and all the societal problems that have resulted.
By the way, many men feel alone in their marriages too.
Yeah, that’s hard to sit there and wait if you’re already in the marriage for a while and it could be down the line when you already had the child so that’s why I’m saying you can’t sit there and say it’s unstable when there was stability already established
I understand that, and I know it must be frustrating. But it's still wrong to have a child when you don't have a committed partner who you know will stick around and be a good father to your children. That was a well accepted fact decades ago, but not anymore. Our standards as a society have dropped way too low, and we are reaping the "rewards" of that.
There's this thing about plans... They often fall apart in front of our eyes. I mean, there has to be a general idea of how something as momentous as having a child will change your life and how you will meet the responsibilities required of being a parent. But, somehow, even when plans fall apart, just being a parent brings out all kinds of abilities and capacities we never even knew we had. If we are emotionally and mentally ready to nurture that little soul, it all falls into place.
That’s why I said you’re never going to be totally prepared to have a child. No, especially your own child to have something like me. I’m already a handful, especially if I have a girl. Wild thought and yeah I guess the clock is ticking but my mother and father had me at an older age. I am OK with that, but I think I’m putting a lot of pressure on the idea of having it all put together a certain way or even if I’ll even them at all, it’s not the end of the world
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