You said it yourself, you really like her, so she is worth chasing.
I understand where she's coming from when she says she doesn't like other people paying for her. It always makes me feel like I owe them something, or that it isn't equal (like one person is being made disadvantaged by having to spend money etc). Occassionally I don't mind it, so long as I would be able to return the favour (which some guys get quite defensive over)
I'd suggest, either offer to do something for free or very cheap. Like watch a film at one of your houses, make a meal and take it to eat somewhere out (picnic style, but maybe better for winter) or something like that. It can be fun without having to spend much money. Or you could offer to pay for it this time, and say she can owe you for the next one (also shows you're interested and would like more than one date/hang out mor together)
Hope it works out :)
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i understand her, but I think if you really like her you should try harder :) you can maybe say "you can pay mine ticket next time when you have the money", well in a nice way! just try to make her relax and believe the money isn't a big deal and she will have fun with you! good luck!
Say that she can cover it next time. And then if you get into a relationship with her, it will be fair. She pays for one date, you pay for one date. She just wants to feel independent is all nd doesn't want anyone feeling the need to take care of her
Sadly, I've seen this happen many a time. This wasn't really a money issue, but rather a means of indirectly declining. Were she willing but unable, she would not decline the offer without presenting an alternative, or at least encouraging the man to try something else later.
Still, props for texting her and getting clarity.
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I know this answer because I hate it when My boyfriend pays for me. Its a short obvious answer, she likes to be independent and doesn't want a guy to do everything for her.
she probably feels bad if you pay for her. I don't like when guys pay for me it makes me feel bad haha
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