Girlfriend never offers to pay? Is she using me?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for about 3 months. She is really great and I like spending time with her, but I sort of get the sense that she's using me. She hasn't offered to pay for anything at all. I have no problem paying, but I don't like that she just expects me to. She is the first girl I have dated so I'm not sure if the things she's doing are normal. Here are a few:

- The not offering to pay thing
- She has canceled 4 or 5 times last minute, but then calls back really enthusiastically to reschedule
- Seems disinterested in what I have to say half of the time
- She's very distant for a few days and then all of a sudden she won't leave me alone
- I bought her a really nice dress ($400) for an engagement party that she didn't even invite me to

The last one ticked me off a little. All in all I love spending time with her, but I don't want to invest so much time and money into this relationship if she's just going to walk out on me. She is very attractive which makes it very hard to be objective when I'm around her.

[pyramid_princess]

The only way to find out if she is using you is to stop giving. A relationship is a two way street , not a one way road. I could never take advantage of a persons kindess. A girl who isn't using you you, would never allow your generosity to go unnoticed. She'd show her appreciation by investing in the relationship too.

Some people are takers, they' ll take your " all" then take your "nothing". It appears to me that she is using you. You seem such a nice guy, it's okay to be kind to people, just don't allow anyone to take advantage of your kindness. Nice people need to have their limits too!

[sunnyfire25]

Dude all I can tell you is stop spending so much on her. Listen to dating experts kenzia noble and julien blanc. Try to look past her beauty and be objective, is she into what you are saying. Tell her to do you some favours, pick up your dry cleaning, or whatever it maybe, if you would do it for her why can't she do it for you?

[FatherJack]

You are being used , to be blunt , she does not really give a rats about you , I have learnt this the hard way in the past. Bin her , break contact & forget about her !

[Anonymous]

It sounds as though she is just using you.