I feel bad telling you this, but I honestly think that you blew it with him. As the guy that's been in his shoes to a point, I've asked a girl to go do something with me and if she shoots me down, then it ends up being really demoralizing. For me, I end up feeling hurt a little bit for a while. If she tries to talk to me then I'll just keep things kinda neutral, because I don't want to be hurt again. Chance are that he might be moving on or he's playing the guilt card. My advice to you would be to keep trying to hang out with him until you see some change. It could be for the better or worse. One of my friends (the girl that I like) bails on me often, mostly last second. She ends up feeling really bad and I'll try again, because I want to hang out with her, only with the same results each time. Plan something with him and make sure you can't back out. If he has to back out, tell him that you had been looking forward to it. That'll either guilt him for skipping or for having to skip and things should work out eventually. Its a non-confrontational solution that should produce results.
However...flirting with the best friend might have been a little too much.
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I think you just need to find a balance. Don't flirt with other guys if you actually like this guy. Do you really like him? He seems to really like you, so don't take it for granted. It just seems like you don't like him.. (he's done pretty much everything a guy could do). Don't say "maybe some other time" as well.. if you like him... say "I'm sorry, I have other obligations, but I would love to some other time."
Is it him who initiates the conversations?
Do you show any interest in him as a person?
Guys will chase you if they really like you... but you need to be serious about this guy if you like him so stop flirting with other guys.
He may be backing off because he's afraid now. I think you might have to step up and make a more direct move to let him know you are genuinely into him. Ask him to hang out just the two of you.
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I dont think you blew it but i do think your going to have to work at it and show him u made a mistake and you really do like him
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