Is it slutty if I like to dance with random boys at bars?

[Anonymous]

when I go out to bars, I like to get pretty silly and dance with random guys... sometimes I don't even remember their names when I come home! I never take them home though, I might make out with them in the club, but never go home with them or take them home with me.

Yes

No

Depends

Other, please explain!

[Serotriptomine]

Well. Sounds like you like to hookup and that's the person you are.

Coming from someone that has relationships and prefers knowing who they're getting the dirty on with.

That would come off as slutty.

I would certainly be turned off if you explained this to me whilst I was trying to get to know you.

But If I were interested in an easy lay, I'd probably pursue you further.

No, this was no an attack, and was a serious opinion.

[Asker]

I wouldn't ever go home with a guy... maybe make out while dancing.. is that bad?

[Serotriptomine]

You tell me?

Are you happy that you do that?

What happens is you're rolling the dice to catch herpes or the likes.

Also, what happens when your boyfriend hears you've made out with 20 random guys on the dance floor and you want to go out and dance with your girls?

Uhhh, no thanks!

See what I'm saying?

[Asker]

hmm yeah that makes sense... except I don't have a boyfriend haha. I somehow still think meeting guys at bars will somehow work. I guess I don't really make out with random strangers much anymore. it kind of lost its fun.. but occasionally it happens. I guess it has been a while though

[Serotriptomine]

Well goodluck, I honestly can't imagine anything good coming out of that.

[eccentric]

have you danced while sitting on his shoulders? if not, you should try it. I'm sure you'd enjoy him bouncing you up and down to the beat. what do you think?

[tohrment]

Who cares? If you're having fun and goofing I don't think it really matters. Don't worry about what others say, especially most of the conservatives on here. However, asking this question makes me think you probably aren't entirely comfortable with it yourself.

Sluttiness is subjective. I go by the idea that if you like doing it and are hurting nobody, it's not slutty.

[Asker]

lol nice. I like to dance, but sometimes these guys just kiss me... and secretly I'm hoping that they'll want to get my number and meet up for dinner sometimes... never happens that way. that's why I don't like it. I always have this small glimmer of hope that they'll ask me out to dinner haha.

[tohrment]

ahh I see. Well if you're doing it with the hope that it will go somewhere, I'd stop. Whilst there are definitely some guys that will ask for your number or whatever, they are usually just looking for a hooks up. Go out and meet people in a non-club setting.

[Asker]

hmm yeah, I don't know where else to meet them though! I go to an all girls college. fail...

[tohrment]

May I ask why you're so adamant about finding a date?

[Asker]

b/c dating is fun! and I've been single for 4 years now. idk. I like guys and I'd like to be with one? lol

[tohrment]

But why not wait until one comes along rather than try look anywhere for one? If you must search, why not socialist at school or when you go out approach and talk to guys rather than just make out with them.

[Asker]

I go to an all girls school... meeting guys is super hard. if I waited for someone to come along, it would probably never happen. I have to go out of my way to be around guys in general

[tohrment]

Maybe try bars instead of clubs, or places where you can approach them and chat, rather than having to be so physical straight off the bat.

[Asker]

yeah. really, bars though? doesn't that just lead to the same thing? maybe you're right. I tend to go to places that have dancing.

[tohrment]

Or you're going for terrible guys. Me and my friends have given out our numbers before and the guys often call and ask to meet up for coffee or whatever. Try be a bit more judicial when you choose a dancing partner :P

[Asker]

whaatt, seriously? I've had like 2 call, ever. that's crazy. maybe I should go to classier bars, although they don't really have them in this town.

[tohrment]

Oh, lol, neither does my town :P I'm from Australia, so maybe there is a culture difference.

[Asker]

haha true!

[Curiouskitten18]

Depends on how you dance I guess. But hey, live and let live. Just don't get gang raped or contract an STD. Other than that, who cares? Dance away.

[Asker]

haha I don't know how you'd get an STD dancing with someone. we aren't naked! lol

[Cantremember]

Slutty: f*** with random guys at bars.

Not slutty: dance with random guys at bars.

But to be honest, the making out with random people might give some guys that impression.

[Asker]

hmm yeah maybe leave the making out out of it haha. sometimes it just happens and they just kiss me! and it's awkward to push someone away in that setting

[Cantremember]

It is less awkward to keep kissing? Slowly I start to understand what you are talking about in your question...

[Asker]

No.. not less awkward to stop. Just have to do it discretely.

[yopyopyop]

Well if you're just dancing, I'd say not slutty.

If you're just flirting like this, I'd tend more to a yes.

And I'd just warn you that rapes can happen like this.

[Asker]

? rape?

[yopyopyop]

Yeah. Some guys won't believe you if you tell them no, when you've acted like you meant yes until the no arrives. There is an information campaign about this in the UK at the moment.

[Asker]

huh lol not sure if I get it

[Dobie_Gillis]

Making out with random guys in the club is borderline, but there's nothing at all wrong with dancing with different guys. Assuming of course that when you come home it's not to your partner/lover...

[Asker]

nope, not taken. hoping that a random bar/date guy might turn into a date... probably unrealistic.

[Dobie_Gillis]

Why unrealistic? You're putting yourself out there and meeting a bunch of different guys. There could be sparks with one or more of them. What's the worst that happens, you have a little but of fun that evening just dancing? You're doing a lot better than most people!

[Asker]

I hope, really? Idk, some people might think it's slutty! or wrong! I just reallly like to dance and sometimes I make eye contact with a guy and he dances with me! I hope that's not a bad thing. I haven't gotten a date that way though :/

[Jager66]

while being a tease like this my be fun and 99.9% of every guy you meet will be fairly normal eventually you will run into trouble.

[Asker]

does that really make me a tease?

[Jager66]

yeah I think so especially if you dance in any kind of sexually suggestive way or make out with them.

[Asker]

hm but if they gave me their number and asked me out I'd probably go lol. I don't know if that really makes me a tease haha

[Jager66]

if your leading them on sexually then moving on then yeah that's being a tease, not all guys will think you are, a few will just be happy to dance but allot of them will think you are a tease. its situational tho and I don't think not asking for your number is really relevant.

[Asker]

like dancing with more than one guy in a night?

[Jager66]

dancing is fine, its how you dance and if your making out with them that kind of stuff

[Asker]

ohh OK gotcha

[sweet_18]

If you're flirting and kissing random guys, yeah that's slutty. You could get mono or herpes from that too.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Sounds like your out for the fun & attention.

[Asker]

fun yes, attention no. I find when a guy asks me to dance always feel pulled away from my friends... so I usually ask him to dance with all of us!

[Dragan]

It depends on how dancing with these guys.

[Asker]

idk ha ha like fun dancing?