Why Do Guys Treat Me like a sex object and not wifey material?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 20 yr. old virgin. Every guy I ever liked treat me like I'm a piece of garbage. I'm an authentic good girl yet guys refuse to date me. They always tell me I can be the side chick but I know I'm better than that. Instead they rather go with girls that been sleeping with a lot of guys. The crazy part is they treat these slutty girls better than me. When it comes to me they just want sex I don't get. I'm cute, smart, I'm a very rare girl that's hard to find. Can somebody tell me why these girls getting treated better than me? Oh yeah these guys be telling me they want to marry these slutty girls.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are naive and don't demand respect? I don't know I am simply grasping at straws.

How do you dress?

Are you very clingy or needy? Do you ALWAYS want to spend your time with him? Calling him alot?

Most guys act like that anyway so it's not 100% percent you, that's just the dating pool in our age range.

[gravygirl]

Maybe it's your grammar.

Seriously though, there has to be something about the way you are presenting yourself that is causing this.

[Asker]

First of all I graduated from high school in early in december and this is my second year in college. Not to mention I am a classy 20 yr. old virgin so I present myself very well.

[gravygirl]

I'm not getting your numbers. Your 20, a sophomore in college, but you graduated HS early? Shouldn't that make you a senior or a junior by now?

I'm also not sure what being a virgin would have to do with knowing how to present yourself. It's not like people lose social intelligence once they have sex. For many I suspect the opposite may be true.

Listen, you asked the question. Doesn't that kind of indicate that you're doing something wrong here?

[KingSoc]

Maybe you are messing with the wrong kind of guys...guys will be guys..but not all guys are like that..but it is true that there are guys out there who looks for a good wholesome girl...u just have to loook past the bozos that you are messing with right now...

[Asker]

I am talking to the wrong guy but that is all I attract.

[KingSoc]

Well just be true to yourself and settle for nothing less of what your worth and you should do just fine and don't worry about what other people think about you ..what you think about yourself and your self-esteem is all that should matter...

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice I'll keep that in mind