Why is dating unfair for men? But average or sexy or any type of girl can get a date?

[Anonymous]

I was thinking since I heard from dudes saying that girl do the choosing and men sometimes get lucky if a girl likes them. I'm single and feel hopeless that many girls that I like don't want nothing to do with me. I feel that it's more easier to be a woman and have a curvier and sexier bodies since woman have it easier to get a man. I know some of you woman may think that men only want woman for sex but I would rather be used for sex than to be used for money or status. It really sucks that woman can get laid or have a relationship with a guy even when there not looking.

[Anonymous]

I would say that your outlook on the situation is hurting you very much because if you feel this way a lot than your going to project it and ladies can pick up on that sort of thing very quickly.

I do agree with you that ladies deffinently have the advantage in the dating world but at the same time it takes two to tango. they need a guy to date.

I also think the post below me has some great advice. you may not want to hear it but being yourself I think is the best thing you can do.

If you still continue to feel this way about the dating situation than work on yourself. go to the gym, eat right, dress better, fix yourself up and do what ever you need to do so that you will feel better and start to exude confidence. then perhaps you will be one of those top notch guys that ladies go for.

[Asker]

how does woman have it easy.

[Opinion Owner]

in the dating world they seem to have it a bit easier because they don't have to go after guys. they take there pick of the litter and have much more options than most guys do.

[Asker]

aww I see so basically dating is hopeless since woman have more options. great were f***ed.

[Opinion Owner]

no one can help you out if your not gonna help yourself and try to see things in a different way.

[Asker]

But how can I see things differently if woman can tempt us men and have so many options.

[Opinion Owner]

first of all this is just one aspect of life. yes woman may have the advantage in the dating world but that's one of the few things they have. think about it. almost all ladies are afraid to be a lone or walk by themselves at night because of how many creeps are out there that can hurt them ect. do you think they feel hopeless about protection issues and that they may not be able to take care of themselves, I'm sure this is something your not worried about I know I'm not.

[Opinion Owner]

but seriously the biggest part of dating and getting a good woman is your attitude. be confident in who you are. and as I said before if your not happy with yourself then work on it. they may have options but what if your the best option for three different girls? then its you who has options then and I'm sure you would be OK with that.

[Asker]

Bro it's depressing as it is I see a lot of beautiful woman and they have more than me I suffered a lot when the girl I like didn't want me and on top of that she was with someone else. How does that feel when you love someone and there with someone else. And it's us men who have to suffer with this problem.

[Opinion Owner]

sorry to hear that happened to you. I know it can be depressing and yea I bet that felt horrible but I'm just saying its not always guys who get the short end of the stick. I'm sure that same situation that you went through has happened to many girls before. sounds like you had a very bad experience and you want to blame all women for it. if I'm wrong than sorry to waste your time but you have to move on you can't dwell on something like this.

[Asker]

your right I just got rejected by a bitch today at work she happy that at least someone talks to her woman are bitches man I'm sorry but this is how they are. I feel that beautiful woman are the ones who can choose have more and can mess up your self esteem.

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel. I consider myself decent looking, and I'm very smart and hard working and motivated and try being nice, funny, and friendly but never have any girls. It makes me sad and I always wonder what is wrong with me and why I don't get girls.

[Anonymous]

Your personality has a lot to do with dating... My boyfriend may not be the cutest guy on earth, but o sure love him, and have to admit that I get a bit jealous when I see so many girls over him... and it's not his physical appearance.. It's just the way he is... He's kind, well-rounded, funny, and very sympathetic... he's just the type of guy that once u're around him you don't wish the time to end, cause he's just cool...

This may not sound as what you may wish but, you just have to be yourself... rather have someone to love you for who you are, than pretend being someone else and the end showing who you really are and not have the best results...

[Asker]

Yeah but personality may be something you look for but dating isn't fair so many woman are with low lives and a**holes but these men have financial assets I'm not being rude but woman can choose who they want woman have freedom to sleep around it's really unfair makes you want to kill yourself. that so many woman have dating power. I'm not the one looking for sex all I want is someone to have a relationship it's more about finding love.

[Opinion Owner]

you don't find love this way... and trust me, it's not the way you describe it... this world has people of all kind... so u'll find all types of people...

[Asker]

Listen sure there are all kind of people but were men woman have to the choosing and so many young woman have dates more than single guys. And there is no way in hell a beautiful woman are single they have options.

[Opinion Owner]

if you keep being pessimistic about this, then chances are you aren't going to find that chick...

[Asker]

Im not being pessimistic I'm being realistic. I just see that so many beautiful woman have control in dating I'm not a woman like you you probably have had so many relationship than me. But I guess it's o.k to be a woman.

[Mann-40]

Why? Simple: Testosterone. That makes you crave women and they know it (and many times take advantage and love it). Women have unlimited choices but a short period of time to pick. When they get to their 30s and 40s it evens out or the tables turn around for men (women hate it) and we get to choose from a larger pool of women, all the prettier younger ones, plus by the time men are not sex crazed as 20 year olds so women can’t manipulate easily. Be patient and work on yourself, physically, socially and economically. Chase excellence, not women, and they will begin to chase YOU.

[LooksMatter]

Because the dating game does not favor men these days. cultural changes, feminism, its all BS, even overweight women can get 8/10 guys, where if a man id fat, he has no chance.

Pretty Much it's looks, money, status.

[Asker]

It's time to take back our country brother take away the woman rights that will teach them.

[IHateBeingaMan]

because it is not fair, because life is never fair