Facebook is making me feel ugly and like a loser. Help?

[Anonymous]

I've never been beautiful, popular or very social, I'm quite shy so it's always been easier for me to interact through text or social media. But Facebook sometimes feels like high school all over again. It's really pathetic. And I sometimes think about going off Facebook altogether, but of course it also helps staying in touch with people far away (also many groups I'm part of in real life make Facebook groups to organize our IRL activities and such).

But I feel ugly and jealous a lot of the time. For example when I don't get any likes for a picture, whereas my friends get tons of likes... I feel hideous. Does it mean I really am ugly? Or people who have tons of friends in Facebook whereas I only have like 200, many of which are bands, stores, etc.

It's really embarrassing to admit to this as it's really pathetic... but it's getting to me... like no one likes me on Facebook, I'm not popular, so why bother in real life? I'm serious and not trolling.

[Bluegameroyon]

*hug*

I don't know who you are, but no worries. The number of friends don't matter, just the quality of them. one true friend who you can really rely on is much better than 500 Facebook "friends". That's not an exaggeration, btw.

and be like me. I don't focus on my looks. If people say that I'm ugly or that I have a bad personality, I don't care. People you hardly even know don't know anything about who you are.

I'm about to eat right now, but if you need some advice, I'll definitely and seriously help. I'm an asshole on GAG because I'm almost always in a shitty mood :/ but I can give some really helpful insights.

*hug* again, take care. The internet really isn't a big deal lol. Focus on the inside and become resolute and unwavering in your morals. Those are the things that count.

[Bluegameroyon]

wow my post looks so cheesy after a few minutes ._.

I really felt that way, though -.- so I won't take it back lol

[billshard43]

I deactivated my 'face book' page a few years ago, because I found it a waste of time, and certainly not entertaining. A few friends commented at the time, so I pointed out the obvious that they could still contact me and we could actually meet up face to face if they wanted.

My age group are not big users of 'face book' anyway, it does seem to be more popular with 20s and 30s. However I have noticed that young teens associate it with older unfashionable adults so perhaps its days are numbered anyway.

[Anonymous]

If you really feel that uncomfortable about it, then I suggest stop using Facebook.

I do understand though that it makes you feel miserable, when you see that others get 10+ likes on their pictures, and you don't even 1, it is pretty sad to see that, but in the end... Cmon, it's the internet! The most important thing is, that you know that you have real friends, in real life, who will be there for you, and not some people on the web who are your "friend" and "like" your pictures, status updates, or whatever you're posting. And no it doesn't mean you're ugly because nobody likes your pictures. Don't ever think that!

[Cottoncandydreams]

This is exactly why I never wanted Facebook in the first place. It's one big popularity contest, and is turning into a slut fest. The main purpose is to reconnect and stay in touch with family and friends, but certain people are creating accounts for the wrong reasons. I deleted so many useless and fake friends. NEVER take Facebook seriously sweetie. The number of likes don't equal how pretty you are. Everyone has different kinds of tastes. My advice is deactivate it, or go on it less than 2 times a week.

[Gawesome]

BA right here! Don't forget drama starter and 'secretly-make-everyone-jelly-of-your-life-starter'. I notice a trend on Valentine's day (and in general) where girls do nothing but try to one up each other on what their bfs got them or where they took them to a fancy restaurant. OR...peeps that just got into a new relationship and just HAD to show it off with fb. we get it...you're in love and I'm single...rub it why dontcha?!? *FACEPALM*...i hate/love fb.

[Cottoncandydreams]

uuuuuughhhhh tell me about it.

[Bluegameroyon]

+1

The meaning of a "friend" on Facebook has degraded into nothingness. It should just be "acquaintances" instead. Most of the people on a Facebooker's profile (someone who has more than 400 "friends") aren't even friends. and don't get me started on the people who have 700+ "friends".

[PrettyBEYes]

Because real life is different, (the internet is used to cure people's boredom) and I think social media only makes people more socially awkward to be honest. That's why I don't get on anymore lol. I noticed I don't get as many likes as certain other girls either (and I think I'm pretty dang gorgeous lol) so I think it's probably because I don't act as crazy or slutty as the rest of them.

[harveykinkle]

If a website does that to you stop using it! It's just a website, not real life!

The sad thing about the world is that most people seem to think that social media is more important than face to face contact. So strange!

[MagicToad311]

My advice, who gives a flying f*** what other people think.

I'm not popular, and not by far the best looking guy in the world, probably the most shy person anyone will ever meet.

my friends list consists of nothing but bands and stores too, maybe about 15 actual human beings I consider my friends.

I could honestly care less about whether they like what I have to say, that's why there's an unfriend and block button.

It's just a social networking site (imho not a very good one) so who cares what other people think?

[shadowscapes]

No need to go to extremes. It's okay to just go on Facebook like once a month. You don't have to go on everyday and make it your second life. And you don't need to remove it either.

The people with 1000 friends don't have more friends than you. It's just that they MET more friends than you. Most of their friends, they probably just met for a week or two and added and they don't really talk. Still, no person ACTUALLY talks to more than 30 of their Facebook friends regularly.

[Jonny_]

Have you ever seen the kind of things that get likes on Facebook though? they're all terrible, 'likes' is no sign of quality. People who have thousands of friends often add a lot of people, they don't always get requests... Anywho numbers is no sign of being attractive, and being attractive isn't the sign of being a person someone would want to be with, otherwise I'd be dating a cardboard cut out of Jessica Alba.

[Blobb]

So no one likes you in your e-life, get on with your real one :)

It's just an entertainment website, treat is as such. If it takes away from your life and causes you stress get rid of it :)

[why-makoto-kun]

Honestly? I'm much happier off Facebook. I'm considering deactivating mine for now.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Stop comparing the story of your life to the highlight reel of someone else's.

[Anonymous]

It's best if you start deactivating your FB account now.

[Anonymous]

Stop using Facebook. It's a privacy violator anyway.

[Anonymous]

Facebook is pointless invention by mankind,worrying about something pointless is just

ridiculous