My boyfriend posts inappropriate things on my FB. Do I speak up?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and his friends tend to be like little kids sometimes and post the dumbest things on their FB walls. I don't care if they do, I know they are just playing around and being stupid (or as they think, funny lol). But recently my boyfriend started posting the most random things on my wall. Like today, he posted a link to an Amazon sale item called "Bitch Fist." It's to be used to fist yourself, and I guess could be used by a girl or a guy. Like, WHY would he post that on my wall? And right under he commented sayind "2 awkward posts in 1" and attached a YouTube video called "white girls" (some weird song parody). Clearly as you can assume, I am a white girl lol. I am not sure what all this stuff is supposed to mean. Is he just trying to be funny and thinks that I will laugh at this, or is he trying to tell me that he'd like me to get one of those "fists" or use one? He knows I am not really into any kind of kinky stuff, and he knows that I get easily embarrassed so that kinda post made me a bit uncomfortable. I don't know how to address this, because I tend to sometimes overreact over the dumbest things and it causes a fight. So I need a sanity check - do you think this kind of post should bother me, or is it something stupid and he's just trying to be funny and I should just let it go and laugh it off? As in, laugh it off as a joke and only maybe address it if he ever actually brings it up as something he'd want me to get/use? I guess I have a hard time sometimes distinguishing when he's joking and I don't want to make a big deal out of this if he was lol.

[Anonymous]

Totally inappropriate and immature. That gives him a bad image. Especially if you have family members (mom, dad, aunt, etc.) on Facebook. I'd definitely say something!

[Asker]

I am not as concerned about what other people on my or his FB think about it, but I am more so concerned that maybe he meant that he would want me to actually get something like this. I also have brought up something else he posted once, and he just said "geez, relax, it was a joke, why you gotta be so serious." I don't want him to think I'm making a big deal out of a joke and think I am just so conservative and not fun or can't take a joke. How can I address it without looking lame?

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, I see what you're saying. You're worried about looking lame, but honestly if you aren't into that kinda stuff then he should respect that. Plain and simple. If you keep brushing it off as nothing then it's really gonna start to annoy you and probably turn you away from him.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess you are right. It's just that it seems that lately I have been annoyed with a lot of little things he does (we always work it out though), and I don't want to be the constantly nagging girlfriend lol. I am trying hard to choose my battles, and I don't know why little things like that bother me. I don't want him to think that I am constantly mad at him or that all I do is complain lol. But yeah I guess the only way for this to stop is if I say something. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

That's really immature. I would just tell him to not post anything on your wall anymore.

If he has a problem with it, oh well.

[imjustadude]

Block him from posting on your wall. I had to do this to my brother. He is a big boy and should get over it.

[Asker]

I feel like he will get really offended. I mean he mostly posts really cute/sweet stuff, he just now posted this weird thing that confused me lol. I just want to tell him it was weird and not to do it, but I don't know how to do that without hurting his feelings or having him think I am trying to be mad at him for no reason.

[imjustadude]

Just block him. If he can't get over something stupid like being blocked on your Facebook wall then he has issues. He can still send you messages. The fact that he likes to post on your wall in front of your friends makes me think he wants to constantly remind your friends that you are his, which is very insecure behavior.

[1inmillion]

Facebook=stupidest thing in the world

[summiter]

Dump him...easy decision.

[Asker]

Why would I dump him over a stupid FB post lol... I am just trying to see whether I should mention that it bothered me or not, cause I don't want him to think I'm being lame or can't take a joke.

[Anonymous]

If you don't like it tell him to stop.

[Pelios]

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