I wouldn't say you're innocent...but..that's besides the point...
I was once in an abusive relationship when I was younger and much less mature than I am now. I liked being dominated, so I went for that type of guy. I believed I could change him. The thing is, once they get into gang life, it is very hard ( and unlikely!) to get out, speaking from experience.
I thought he would never hurt me. He showered me with compliments, told me how innocent I was, and how he loved that whole good girl thing. Things became abusive and I was sexually and verbally abused, he recorded it, and started selling it as child p*rnography (I was under 18 at the time).
It is a risk, and while it's your decision, I would highly advise that you rethink your life and look at the red flags, before something does happen, where you can't just back out of it.
There ARE assertive, dominant, nice guys. I'm not saying that he isn't nice, but...I would start thinking things through more.
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Go for it he seems a nice guy maybe hung with the wrong crew hence got into bad things
Given all that you said, that his past is in his past, that he really like him and respect, that he treats you well and isn't trying to take advantage of you somehow, what's the problem? If friends are nervous about his past, that really is their issue. Since he's raising a son, he clearly is much more responsible than he might have been then. I think that only the present matters and as long as that doesn't change for the worse, more power to you both!
he sounds like a good guy to me. This decision about being with him or not is entirely up to you, don't let others tell you what to think. Well... Do you know the name of the gang he was in? He might still be in it. "Blood in and blood out", you know?
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hey hun, i'm in the same boat at the moment, my man sound exactly like yours! may i ask how your relationship is going and if you are happy. My man doesn't shower me in complements however, he warned me from the get go he blunt and too the point, he's never complement my body in any which way, the most he's said is your bodies fine, there's nothing wrong with it, evidently he said i wish your boobs were bigger, have you thought about getting a boob job. anyway are you happy or have you moved on?
None of our business. It's completely up to you who you date! Maybe he's a good guy deep down!
Gangster like in a stupid street gang? Or gangster like Mafia?
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