Guys who like to "party" and who have a "good girlfriend"?

[Olya363]

So I am asking / wondering about my boyfriend (6 months). He goes out often, drinking, mostly with his buddies, smoke etc. downtown, etc. I'm not much of a party-girl, more like a "good girl" (dont smoke cigarettes or drugs, Haven't had sex yet and don't usually date except him recently). I like to actually do things and spend money on clothes rather than alc. In fact, I wish I went out more sometimes)

ANYWAYS, he's out right now and I am just sort of upset and I don't even know the reason :( I'm not jealous, I'm just wondering if that's what I want for myself. He's 24 I'm 22.

Would this relationship even work if we are different people in that respect? I know he's not looking for girls (dont worry), he just likes to drink and get stupid with his buddies I guess. I know 100% its not that.

Do you think he thinks that I'm boring because I don't usually? He has taken me out with him a couple of times but I didn't drink that much and had to get home or else my mom would be calling my phone.

To those "party-guys" out there, why do you go out, is it just to hang with friends? Why do you feel the need to get wasted?

Should I even be with him?

help me out pleaseee :)

[kangaru]

You are like me, I am not party person and I rather spend money elsewhere rather than on alc. do I do social drinks.

tbh, I wouldn't like a guy who party so much and like one of the anon users who mentioned many attached men go out to pick girls and many times they hang out at those places is for that purpose.

why not you raise your concern with him?

If a person lifestyle is very different from mine, I don't see a long term relationship w him.

[Jonny_]

I agree 100% :)

[kangaru]

:)

[CRamos3]

This is an excellent answer!

[devotedlyopinionated]

If I didn't like to party, I probably wouldn't want a guy who liked to go out all the time because what's the point? Either you'll be spending time apart all the time or someone will be going somewhere they don't want to whether it be you going to parties with him or him hanging out at home. However, it's up to you. If you guys are really compatible otherwise than it might be something you could get over.

[2ndGuess]

I party every weekend and I'ts not that I need to, it's just a lot of fun to get wasted. That's why everyone does it really.

Do you ever goto clubs together? I goto a lot of music events and when the music is good I could have fun totally sober.. so that's an idea for you to do with him

[Jonny_]

I'd agree with anon, it's not usually a good sign that a guy goes out all the time... especially without his other half. I don't think people who party often are very mature, plus I don't think they go out to be with friends... Ever been to a club? Can't here a thing...

[Jonny_]

hear*

[Olya363]

I know that he doesn't do it for the girls trust me. He likes to be with his friends (thats even how we met, I am a bartender and He was with his friends)

[Jonny_]

Believe me when I say, I like hanging out with my friends and all... but going out to a club is the single worst place for me to do that... I can't hear them, can barely see them as well if they aren't doing their own thing in the place. It's a terrible place to socialise with friends.

[Olya363]

Ohhh. He goes to bars usually

[Jonny_]

Bars are a bit better, although I still like to try and involve my better half if I can... especially with friends. I don't want to have to keep them separate forever.

[highondrugs]

uh, you talk bad about clubs because you are busy sitting on your computer like a loser. that's what's immature, now quit judging people who have a lot more fun than you f*****

[Jonny_]

Ok lets review, you're a 26 year old whose username is 'highondrugs' you think being mature is going to a club and having apparent 'fun', and your assume that I'm a loser because I spend some time on a computer when you're clearly doing the same otherwise you wouldn't be answering a question that's now over a day old. I did go to clubs when I was about 16 through 18, I'm past that to be honest. Rethink your argument, especially when it's this thin.

[Averageusername]

Lol @ calling people losers for sitting on computer while sitting at a computer

[davdus]

it's age/gender thing, typically males who are around 20, 21, 22 etc..like to go out to drink. it's just something we like to do. My dad is 57 and doesn't go out too much anymore. When he goes out, it's with my mom or with me yada yada. it's just the age thing that makes a difference. I think in the end, he'll wind up like my dad...someone who likes to go out but not in your words "party"

[ABH-french]

All men know that men don't go out just to be with their buddies. You should worry a bit more...

Morevover, I understand your feeling. You ARE jealous of his friends because you'd prefer him to be with you rather than with his friends.

A relationship between people who don't do many things together oten fails. You have to share more activities with him. Actually, the question is reallu "what do you want for yourself"

[highondrugs]

where are you coming up with this bullsh*t? you just assume and generalize that this guy having his own time (which every healthy reLatinoship has, its callled SPACE) might be flirting with other girls or getting distant to her. All that says is that you are a loser to try to fill her head with doubt.

[ABH-french]

I agree I can be wrong but I don't try to fill her head with doubt.

[Foxx93]

Sounds like the typical ass of a guy in that age group nowadays. I by no means am trying to come down on you or him, but he needs to grow up, you can act that way in high school but once you hit 20 it should be time to act a little more mature. Don't waste your time on people like that.

[mikewnaz]

Id say give him his space.

Just work on your life when you're together.

you might want to spice things up a bit.

Why haven't you had sex? Maybe just give him a blowjob?

[emzy-89]

Don't "just give him a blowjob". You shouldn't ever do something sexual because you're thinking that it'll secure your relationship, because it won't. I'm 24, and haven't had sex yet, there's nothing wrong with that.

[Anonymous]

The reason I go out is to pick up girls. Even my friends who have girlfriends and kids still try to get girls. Rarely do I go out just to hang out with the guys.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you want to be with a guy more like yourself? You guys aren't even compatible.

[Anonymous]

That's up to you.