Should I regret not partying and being reckless in high school?

[thecd1979]

I just can't but think that I missed out on a lot as a teen back in high school. I actually did all the right things, not skipping class, trying to make good grades and being respectful to my parents. I had a part time job that I worked up until I graduated. I never had on campus suspension for getting in trouble at school, never went to wild drinking parties that were out in the country pretty much every weekend. I always tried to do the right thing and didn't just think of myself.

I heard all the stories from all the guys and girls that did go to the parties and drink, do drugs and have sex with whomever and it sounded awesome and that I really missed out. Everybody loved those guys and girls and their names where all over the place, they were important people. I wish I could have said I was important back then and that people liked me. The question I have is did I really miss out on what could have been some wild times and stories I could have told today. I often wonder just what it would have been like to be irresponsible and reckless and have tons of people that liked me because of it. I have regrets on not doing these things in high school. Am I just making a big deal out of nothing and was it really not much I missed or should I have made more of an effort.

I am a pretty repsosible person today and have a good job and yes some of the party people from back then have faced serious consequences from their actions (ie DUI's, drug addiction) but would it have been worth the risk and was I really just lame not doing those things.

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+1 y

I realize that this was how ever long ago but it's something that I wonder about

[ladsin]

Personally, I would, I regret that I did too little of those things as well (although I did quite a lot) I went to a small high school that was really Christian so I didn't get too party like I wanted to, I had a few close friends that I'd drink and do drugs with and what not, but I never really went out partying. So I feel like I missed out on part of it, part of my regret though may be because I am at a military college now and as a result rarely get to leave to go party and what not. So I feel like if I had done it in HS it might not bother me that much not doing it in college.

But really don't bother with regretting about the past man, lol the past is gone it's fun to reflect on sometimes but I think the future is more impt XP

[FLOGrown93]

Yeah you probably will regret it but there is that chance it could've went bad, some of my good buddies have died over dumbshit they were doing that involved drugs and drinking, But hey there's a lot more to life. so don't regret what's in the past, what's done is done.

[musicbrain5]

No way. Be proud that you did not partake in those activities. A lot of the people I knew in high school who were like that are in a bad place now because they didn't buckle down in school. Most of them were not able to go to university or community college because their grades were bad (as a result of partying, drinking, drugs, and not caring about school at all). Those people were popular in school for the wrong reasons, trust me. You have not missed out on anything since those people are probably now regretting how they acted in high school.

[imimim]

No.

Never regret making good decisions. I'm sure those people had fun but they also have to deal with bad consequences. You enjoyed your life too, and you have a good life now. Not everyone is the same and you don't have to feel bad because "lots of people like those guys". Probably lots of people don't like them, as well. If you're bored now or not having fun, try some new activities, throw a nice party, make new friends. No reason that you have to be irresponsible to have fun.

[petitechick-02]

Why regret it? Once its over its over. Its not like you doing things then is making you popular now. Fun is in the moment. If its in the past its just a memory and its best to say you led a responsible life as a young person, its more admirable NOW.

[exitseven]

I was going through the same thing a few years ago. Maybe it was a mid life crisis, I don't know. But I never used drugs, hardly ever drank, maybe 2 or 3 beers, always treated girls with respect, tried to do good in school and stay out of trouble. I had a long distance relationship with somebody (1500 miles apart) for over 3 years and this was before cell phones and email and I had plenty of opportunities to cheat on her but I never did. I was a little depressed because I felt like I missed out on a lot of fun and I can't go back and do it over again. I talked about this with a friend who is a life coach. She told me that I didn't miss out on anything and those that did all those things probably have demons that I know nothing about and she said that it was awesome that I had "a good, clear, life" (her words).
Her words really made me feel better, especially the "good, clear, life" part and I hope maybe you find some meaning in them too.
Or else maybe think about what the great Billy Joel said. "You pay for your satisfaction, somewhere along the line."

[NathanDavis]

I never went to wild drinking, wild drugs, wild sex, parties.

I do not regret that.

Those are things I could still do, I do not want to.

You're still on time to do those things, it would be as reckless to do them now as it would have been before. and perhaps, even more irresponsible.

But there's plenty of other experiences you can have, and can still have.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

If you're satisfied with where your life is now, then why worry about the past? As you said, fun isn't always consequence free, and a lot of times people make up things to sound better than they actually were.

[kheserthorpe]

How old are you? You live in a big city or small town? Decent job? Single?

[futureSURGEON]

i fucked up majorly in high school, i'm paying for it now. i will be graduating late. i regret it, but all i can do is move forward toward my ultimate goal.

[Anonymous]

If enjoyed your experiences in high school then 'why regret them?' Also being reckless and getting into drugs would have help you with nothing it would only have gotten you into trouble.

[Anonymous]

If you're happy with your time in highschool, don't regret it. But I know I would regret it because that it your time to have fun and live. Don't regret it now, just make up for it in college!