Does anyone else think too far ahead when they meet someone they like?

[shannon21]

For example getting too excited too soon. Before you really know a guy and his intentions and how he sees you. For some reason when I like a guy. In my head I imagine how I'd be with them and then settle down.

I'm not crazy I just long for that happiness. I think of the guy I like an imagine what could happen.
In reality I know guy I like probably thinks yeah I will sleep with her. An for all I know he might not want a relationship.

Guess its just wishful thinking that you can like a guy and he would like you enough to commit. Life isn't like that I know. Probably why I'm so sensitive. I hype myself up before knowing the outcome.

I do this with every guy I meet. Then when it goes wrong I breakdown and become depressed. I long for real love. So when I feel like its possible. My mind goes into overdrive and I feel like I can almost taste happiness.

Then when I realise he's a scumbag it sets me back and makes me feel like I'm not good enough.

[TadCurious]

I think you're on to something. People who long for love naturally tend to idealize love, and they have images in their heads of what that looks like. When we see, or meet, new people of the opposite sex we're attracted to, I think it's normal to have those movies play in our head of what it might be like to be with them.

[TadCurious]

thanks shannon for MH !!!

[ryanontario]

yeah I have this happen to me all the time , I never just take things day by day , I always look way too far ahead and really shouldn't. I should just go on dates with these girls and see where things go before thinking way too far ahead

[shannon21]

Yeah same. That way you protect your heart

[gingerrr]

I do it too. I also think it can cloud our perceptions of the person and have us misinterpret everything they say and do as a sign they like us when maybe they don't.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It happen to me. And it sucks when you find out that the intentions aren't good or not even their for you.

[shannon21]

Yeah I agree

[Neurath]

My energy certainly booms when I'm talking to them but its just a spurt for that moment. It has no long term connotations or thoughts attached until we know each other much better.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I get like that with girls a bit. But I'm aware of getting ahead of myself enough so that I'm not disappointed when it doesn't happen.

[Anonymous]

yes kind of... only if i think of someone as being the one