I absolutely understand how you feel (even down to the hopeless romantic bit), but the fact is without online, I would have never met the girl I love. For a shy person like me who didn't have much of a chance meeting people "traditionally", technology made the impossible possible.
Interesting subject. Nowadays most people resort to using this sorta thing to meet others as opposed the ole fashioned way. I. E introducing yourself in public to others, or a friend introducing u to someone.
I know people who' are married or in relationships by using technology. Yea it can work. It's never worked with me, but dosent mean hope is lost for everyone else. But I'm not the most social person, but what are you gonna do right?
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I think girls are significantly more attached to their phones than guys are. Just walk on a university campus. You'll see guys walking around with their phones out of sight. Like 80% of girls have their head pointed down typing of their phone while they are walking.
Can't expect a guy to be old fashioned if you physically can't see anything other than what's on your phones screen.
Just because the many do dating this way, doesn't mean everyone does. My MO with best success was always meeting girls on walk to work, or in Starbucks, grocery shopping, waiting for a train/bus.
Granted most of said girls didn't last but eventually i found my wife doing it this way. The online route never appealed to me, especially after my first 2 x both girls looked nothing like they photos.
That's what everyone says about any change ever. Yes the pengulem is swinging hard but in the end people will find balance again. If things go south and people loss interest a new one will emerge when you least expect it to be.
Meh, it has just pushed women over the edge of narcissism and pickiness. Though, I can still stand and up leave after 5 mins into the date, which is what I usually do... and they're surprised "how can you turn me down".
i prefer meeting girls face to face and talking and when i text i have that in mind, however and while some (few) actually are up for that, others (many) actually just want attention over text and are the kind that lead you on... usually within a week or two of texting i starting trying to meet up, if i know her through college its easy i just have to meet her on campus, safe and quick (but even then a lot seem hesitant ).
what i found out through messaging plenty of girls, dating and going out with girls is that : 1- many lead men on for attention 2- a lot have bfs but seek attention from men they deem very attractive 3- some girls have no idea what they want, they tell you i like you one day and the next they despise the floor you walk on.
It has become a game because guys now have access to easy sex, especially those who are 18-24. By the time they are older and want a genuine relationship, women have learned the hard way after being used up by guys in their early 20s so when the same guys try to approach them after they are done playing the field, these women no longer trust them. guus these days also lack good father figures to guide them through life, so their confidence is stumped to begin with. This is a disadvantage when it comes to dating. Then they develop the habit of complaining rather than focusing their energy on taking action steps to achieve their goals.
@vvn604 Dude iam 23 as my profile states and i approach girls in the 18-22 range, i find it hard to believe that a 18 or 19 year old has been used by dozens of guys (her problem if thats true) iam nothing but nice , genuine and never used girls just to pump and dump them , I am sorry but that doesn't cut it, i really dont care for the reason if a girl is acting like an asshole to me i won't stick around and i have done it before, if i am nice i expect you to be nice and show the same amount of attention you showed before i approached you.
Guys dont lack a figure but girls aren't worth it, why would any sane man date a girl who his friend banged last week at the club after knowing her for a couple of hours? there are two types of girls , the ones you marry and the ones you use for sex, which one you choose to be is your own personal choice.
you're literally throwing the responsibilty on men despite them not changing at all in the past 100 years, the ones who
@Whizzy83 changed are the women , so if you really have a problem with anyone or anything its the women you should be blaming not the men, women changed and ruined it for everyone and for themselves, when you sleep around and act like a queen dont expect me to take you seriously or think of as girlfriend material to me you're just fun material , that won't change.
Reality is not always so black and white. And blaming women for changing becayse society is changing shows you lack the mindset of a responsible man of integrity. Plus yes, you stated there are girls that "the ones you marry and the ones you use for sex". So you do use girls. That shows you have no right to blame women for not living up to your expectations.
@vvn604 I use girls? no, girls let themselves be used, the girl who had sex with 10 guys by the time she turned 19 won't be approached by a decent man for marriage, she will be approached by men asking for sex only and they will move on, now the virgin who takes care of herself and doesn't curse like a sailor, thats the kind of girl who we want to marry.
Women have a habit of blaming everything on men, do it and lets see how it will benefit you, all women who talk like you are single in their 30s with no sign of a boyfriend, you know why? they refuse to fix their own problems they focus way too much on what men do wrong, yes men are not perfect we make mistakes no one is perfect, but iam straight forward and i dont lead girls on, if i want sex she will know and if i want something serious she will know, but the problem is that girls nowadays give themselves way too much value, much more than they're worth.
as a result we as men stop chasing and move on to another girl who is much more open to our approaches, do you know that i approached 3 girls who showed a lot of interest in me, we talked for weeks, and they were very happy talking to me and sharing things about their life, but these same women had bfs !!! one was engaged for gods sake ! how is it my fault if i apporach a girl who shows interest in me and she turns out taken?
and i am currently chatting with a girl who probably has a boyfriend, i moved on i stopped talking to her iam done with this shit, its very annoying and really not cool, girls think they can just use girls and act like queens, no thats not how it works, have some dignity and respect for the person who is being genuine with you.
Guys know girls are easy to manipulate emotionally and they play on that. I think you were the one who was saying girls are making it hard and playing games. And trying to attack me with silly uninformed assumptions shows you are not yet mature enough to handle relationships. This is one of the reasons why you're not getting girls and they sense that.
The problem is the guys who are messing with the girls and screwing up the dating game. Probably your "pals". Those are the ones you should be calling out. The so-called "jerks".
From what you revealed "if i want sex she will know" shows you unintentionally use girls. Girls get attached after sex and guys know it. It's just a play on words they're using to manipulate girls.
I really have low BS tolerance these days, i've talked to enough girls to know the truth, iam not too immature but girls have weird and unrealistic ideas, iam a person and i have self respect i won't run after a girl who decides she wants me to give everything i have just so she agrees to see me, no if i ever reach such a point i will move on and find a better girl, a girl who respects me as a human being not one who plays games and acts like a queen, you sound really bitter you hate men from what i see, you literally blamed everything on men and haven't even addressed women at all, in your mind women are angles. and you're probably a feminist as well with really weird and unrealistic ideas.
women like you are the ones i avoid, they dont care about explanations or right and wrong they care about one thing : how can i be the queen of the world.
Well, I met my fiancée at an evening class and my two closest friends met their fiancée and boyfriend on OKCupid and through work friends respectively.
Don't blame technology for making face to face social interaction seem difficult to you - either you aren't that sort of person anyway, or you need to stop using texting as a crutch.
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How else am I supposed to meet gingers without websites like "hotforginger" and "seeingred"? Online dating has made it easy to find the redhead of my dreams.
To be honest, I think technology is a good AND a bad thing when it comes to relationship. I think it depends on a person of how he or she feels about it
I do think technology has changed the way we date for sure, everything has to do with smartphones these days from asking your crush out, to a date. I think it's just a sign of lazyiness, it's really not fair on the guys that do try and go out of theire way to impress a Girl e. g surprising her, instead of a guy getting her over text the guys that don't give a dam.
I don't know what if that Deaf guy does text message send to her who is hearing some read texts... (if Deaf does not speak or Hearing does not use note paper)
It's those movies and books that have done far more damage than mobile technology ever could. Being a hopeless romantic with unrealistic expectations IS the problem, not cellphones.
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I absolutely understand how you feel (even down to the hopeless romantic bit), but the fact is without online, I would have never met the girl I love. For a shy person like me who didn't have much of a chance meeting people "traditionally", technology made the impossible possible.
Interesting subject. Nowadays most people resort to using this sorta thing to meet others as opposed the ole fashioned way. I. E introducing yourself in public to others, or a friend introducing u to someone.
I know people who' are married or in relationships by using technology. Yea it can work. It's never worked with me, but dosent mean hope is lost for everyone else. But I'm not the most social person, but what are you gonna do right?
I think girls are significantly more attached to their phones than guys are. Just walk on a university campus. You'll see guys walking around with their phones out of sight. Like 80% of girls have their head pointed down typing of their phone while they are walking.
Can't expect a guy to be old fashioned if you physically can't see anything other than what's on your phones screen.
lol this is true some chicks are hopeless with the phones out
Take yourself outside the box lady.
Just because the many do dating this way, doesn't mean everyone does. My MO with best success was always meeting girls on walk to work, or in Starbucks, grocery shopping, waiting for a train/bus.
Granted most of said girls didn't last but eventually i found my wife doing it this way. The online route never appealed to me, especially after my first 2 x both girls looked nothing like they photos.
Too the good ol'days
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That's what everyone says about any change ever. Yes the pengulem is swinging hard but in the end people will find balance again. If things go south and people loss interest a new one will emerge when you least expect it to be.
Meh, it has just pushed women over the edge of narcissism and pickiness. Though, I can still stand and up leave after 5 mins into the date, which is what I usually do... and they're surprised "how can you turn me down".
I want to meet girls face to face but they make that really hard and they play way too many games, iam sorry but i dont feel iam doing anything wrong
Sad but true, keep trying though because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
@Whizzy83 yeah you're right.
i prefer meeting girls face to face and talking and when i text i have that in mind, however and while some (few) actually are up for that, others (many) actually just want attention over text and are the kind that lead you on... usually within a week or two of texting i starting trying to meet up, if i know her through college its easy i just have to meet her on campus, safe and quick (but even then a lot seem hesitant ).
what i found out through messaging plenty of girls, dating and going out with girls is that :
1- many lead men on for attention
2- a lot have bfs but seek attention from men they deem very attractive
3- some girls have no idea what they want, they tell you i like you one day and the next they despise the floor you walk on.
It has become a game because guys now have access to easy sex, especially those who are 18-24. By the time they are older and want a genuine relationship, women have learned the hard way after being used up by guys in their early 20s so when the same guys try to approach them after they are done playing the field, these women no longer trust them. guus these days also lack good father figures to guide them through life, so their confidence is stumped to begin with. This is a disadvantage when it comes to dating. Then they develop the habit of complaining rather than focusing their energy on taking action steps to achieve their goals.
@vvn604 Dude iam 23 as my profile states and i approach girls in the 18-22 range, i find it hard to believe that a 18 or 19 year old has been used by dozens of guys (her problem if thats true) iam nothing but nice , genuine and never used girls just to pump and dump them , I am sorry but that doesn't cut it, i really dont care for the reason if a girl is acting like an asshole to me i won't stick around and i have done it before, if i am nice i expect you to be nice and show the same amount of attention you showed before i approached you.
Guys dont lack a figure but girls aren't worth it, why would any sane man date a girl who his friend banged last week at the club after knowing her for a couple of hours? there are two types of girls , the ones you marry and the ones you use for sex, which one you choose to be is your own personal choice.
you're literally throwing the responsibilty on men despite them not changing at all in the past 100 years, the ones who
@Whizzy83 changed are the women , so if you really have a problem with anyone or anything its the women you should be blaming not the men, women changed and ruined it for everyone and for themselves, when you sleep around and act like a queen dont expect me to take you seriously or think of as girlfriend material to me you're just fun material , that won't change.
Reality is not always so black and white. And blaming women for changing becayse society is changing shows you lack the mindset of a responsible man of integrity. Plus yes, you stated there are girls that "the ones you marry and the ones you use for sex". So you do use girls. That shows you have no right to blame women for not living up to your expectations.
@vvn604 I use girls? no, girls let themselves be used, the girl who had sex with 10 guys by the time she turned 19 won't be approached by a decent man for marriage, she will be approached by men asking for sex only and they will move on, now the virgin who takes care of herself and doesn't curse like a sailor, thats the kind of girl who we want to marry.
Women have a habit of blaming everything on men, do it and lets see how it will benefit you, all women who talk like you are single in their 30s with no sign of a boyfriend, you know why? they refuse to fix their own problems they focus way too much on what men do wrong, yes men are not perfect we make mistakes no one is perfect, but iam straight forward and i dont lead girls on, if i want sex she will know and if i want something serious she will know, but the problem is that girls nowadays give themselves way too much value, much more than they're worth.
as a result we as men stop chasing and move on to another girl who is much more open to our approaches, do you know that i approached 3 girls who showed a lot of interest in me, we talked for weeks, and they were very happy talking to me and sharing things about their life, but these same women had bfs !!! one was engaged for gods sake ! how is it my fault if i apporach a girl who shows interest in me and she turns out taken?
and i am currently chatting with a girl who probably has a boyfriend, i moved on i stopped talking to her iam done with this shit, its very annoying and really not cool, girls think they can just use girls and act like queens, no thats not how it works, have some dignity and respect for the person who is being genuine with you.
Guys know girls are easy to manipulate emotionally and they play on that. I think you were the one who was saying girls are making it hard and playing games. And trying to attack me with silly uninformed assumptions shows you are not yet mature enough to handle relationships. This is one of the reasons why you're not getting girls and they sense that.
The problem is the guys who are messing with the girls and screwing up the dating game. Probably your "pals". Those are the ones you should be calling out. The so-called "jerks".
@vvn604 you're 27, but are married or have a bf?
From what you revealed "if i want sex she will know" shows you unintentionally use girls. Girls get attached after sex and guys know it. It's just a play on words they're using to manipulate girls.
And plus, otherwise why are most fathers so protective of their daughters when they have a boyfriend? Because they know how guys think.
I really have low BS tolerance these days, i've talked to enough girls to know the truth, iam not too immature but girls have weird and unrealistic ideas, iam a person and i have self respect i won't run after a girl who decides she wants me to give everything i have just so she agrees to see me, no if i ever reach such a point i will move on and find a better girl, a girl who respects me as a human being not one who plays games and acts like a queen, you sound really bitter you hate men from what i see, you literally blamed everything on men and haven't even addressed women at all, in your mind women are angles.
and you're probably a feminist as well with really weird and unrealistic ideas.
women like you are the ones i avoid, they dont care about explanations or right and wrong they care about one thing : how can i be the queen of the world.
@vvn604 stop dodging the question and changing the subejct you're 27 and unwanted by men, you're a loser.
The amount of likes i got proves that people think like me and they see the real issue, we dont women like you you're just ruining for everyone
i think most women feel the same way. we all want to be wooed and sought after ofcourse with men with good intentions
Well, I met my fiancée at an evening class and my two closest friends met their fiancée and boyfriend on OKCupid and through work friends respectively.
Don't blame technology for making face to face social interaction seem difficult to you - either you aren't that sort of person anyway, or you need to stop using texting as a crutch.
Nothing beats old school. So to all the women and men who do online dating I tell you this. " GET COMFORTABLE FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE "
How else am I supposed to meet gingers without websites like "hotforginger" and "seeingred"? Online dating has made it easy to find the redhead of my dreams.
u like redheads that much?
@Tanisha69 yes, they're the only women for me.
To be honest, I think technology is a good AND a bad thing when it comes to relationship. I think it depends on a person of how he or she feels about it
Agreed
Relationships are a waste of time. Especially since a majority of all marriages end in divorce. Did you know that 80% of women initiate the divorce?
Online dating makes it easier for men to hookup, which is want they want.
Women iniate it because they get $$$ in the divorce courts and custody of their kids.
@TheUsername27 Majority? Since when 25%>75%? o:
I do think technology has changed the way we date for sure, everything has to do with smartphones these days from asking your crush out, to a date. I think it's just a sign of lazyiness, it's really not fair on the guys that do try and go out of theire way to impress a Girl e. g surprising her, instead of a guy getting her over text the guys that don't give a dam.
why I'm looking at this picture.
I don't know what if that Deaf guy does text message send to her who is hearing some read texts...
(if Deaf does not speak or Hearing does not use note paper)
almost... this is a little rude article.
It's those movies and books that have done far more damage than mobile technology ever could. Being a hopeless romantic with unrealistic expectations IS the problem, not cellphones.
Depends on how you use it. Utilize it properly and it can definitely be an advantage over ancient times.
Painfully introverted people will definitely benefit.
I mean, if it weren't for eharmony, I would never have met my wife.
I agree for me nothing beats old school as I am a traditional guy so no phones allowed on dates.