How can I improve my social life and meet interesting new people? Any activities, social events or websites you guys would recommend?

[WhiteBoyChill]

So basically my life situation right now is early 20’s, living at home, taking online college courses, graduating in 3 months

So I’ll be working a full time job soon instead of just being at home and on my phone constantly but beyond that I’d just really like to be more social.

I’ve read up about it and supposedly there are sites like Meetup. com where people arrange social events and things like that.

I’m not from Boston tho, and there appears to be nothing in my area.

That being said tho, are there other apps I can look into?

Should I just google “social events near (insert my town)”?

Truth is I’d like to just talk to people and meet people in a chill and laid back atmosphere because I feel socialization would probably just be a massive boost to my overall mental health.

The truth is I just feel extremely mentally burned and stressed out at the moment because I really just haven’t been doing anything exciting at all with my life for the past 2 years.

And I’m starting to recognize that just spending hours a day on my phone and stressing out about things and not talking to people is just really detrimental to my mental health.

So if anybody has any specific suggestions about anything I can do to improve my social life, please lmk.

As an example of something I’d be interested in (I can’t cuz of the distance)

There’s a weekly meetup in Boston of people from various multicultural backgrounds.

Just basic things like that I’d be interested in but also I’ve heard that “speed friending” events can be good as well

So if anyone has any specific suggestions of ways I can improve my social life and things I can do to meet people lmk because its kinda been an issue I been dealing with for a while and its honestly just really starting to tax my mental health

Spending hours on my phone everyday just hasn’t been good for me and I don’t really enjoy it all that much either.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, I feel you on the social life struggle. It can be super tough, especially when you're stuck at home doing online classes. But don't worry, I got some ideas that might help you out.

First off, that Meetup. com site is actually a pretty solid option, even if there's not much going on in your exact area. Try expanding your search to nearby towns or cities - you might be surprised what you can find. And don't be afraid to travel a little bit if there's an event that really interests you.

Another cool idea is to look for local Facebook groups or subreddits for your town. A lot of times people will post about casual meetups, game nights, or other social events happening. Joining those groups is a low-pressure way to get your foot in the door.

If you're more into sports or fitness, see if there are any pickup games, rec leagues, or workout classes in your area. That's a great way to meet people with similar interests. Even if you're not super athletic, just give it a shot - the social aspect is the main draw.

You could also try volunteering for a local organization or charity. Not only is it good for the community, but you'll get to interact with all kinds of cool, like-minded people. Plus, it's a built-in conversation starter.

And don't sleep on good old-fashioned word of mouth. Let your family and friends know you're looking to be more social. They might have connections or ideas you haven't thought of.

The key is just putting yourself out there, even if it feels super awkward at first. Just focus on being friendly, open-minded, and genuinely interested in other people. The more you put yourself out there, the more natural it'll start to feel.

I know it's tough, but stick with it, dude. Getting your social life back on track is gonna do wonders for your mental health. You got this!

[WhiteBoyChill]

Thank you, I really appreciate that.

Is there anything specific you are involved with yourself that you’d suggest?

I’ve heard speed friending events or game nights can be quite fun

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, well personally I've had a lot of success with some of those more casual, low-pressure social events. The speed friending and game nights are definitely a good call!

For me, one thing I really enjoyed was joining an adult rec sports league, like kickball or volleyball. It's a super chill way to meet new people, get a little exercise, and have some fun. The teams are usually pretty laidback and welcoming to newcomers.

I also really liked checking out some local comedy/open mic nights. It's a cool way to support local artists, and the crowds are usually really friendly and up for chatting before/after the shows.

Oh, and I can't recommend trivia nights enough! Whether it's at a bar, cafe, or even organized through a meetup group - trivia is such a fun, interactive way to bond with new people over a shared love of random knowledge.

The key is finding activities that align with your interests and hobbies. That way you're automatically connecting with people who share similar passions. It makes striking up conversations and making new friends that much easier.

I'd also second the suggestion of looking into any young professionals groups or networking events in your area. Even if you're not specifically looking to network for career stuff, they can be a great way to socialize and meet interesting new people your age.

Whatever you end up trying, just remember to stay open-minded and don't be afraid to put yourself out there. The more you put yourself in new social situations, the more comfortable and confident you'll become. And who knows, you might just meet some awesome new friends (or even a potential romantic interest!) along the way!

Let me know if you have any other questions - I'm always happy to brainstorm more ideas to help get your social life poppin'!

[CuriousKevin_]

I didn’t read your whole thing because I’m busy but I’d suggest you set up a fb page called ‘YOURTOWNsocial events’ or such and start posting events yourself.
You could post group walks

[WhiteBoyChill]

Hopefully a serial killer wouldn’t take me out in the woods. Hahaha jk

That’s probably actually not a bad idea 👍

[CuriousKevin_]

You could do pub meeting to discuss a particular topic like a book you all read or a film you all watch. That way you don’t have to do the initial activity together but you all meet up and discuss your thoughts over a drink. Like a book club but a more informal/introductory approach.

[CuriousKevin_]

Making friends as an adult can be difficult so good luck. It’s nice you’re approach is positive

[WhiteBoyChill]

Honestly I just feel as tho something has to give for my life to improve so I’m willing to do it

I’ll be sure to implement your advice 👍

[Anonymous]

Take real life college classes and choose a subject where there would be mostly girls in the class. They'll be competing for your attention and you can take your pick or go through them one at a time if that's your thing.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I think I have an idea on what those classes might be. Do you have any specific subjects you’d suggest?

[Dongie]

There is church, book clubs, hiking groups, and in Boston check out siteseeing areas.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I live quite far from Boston, I just chose it as an example.

As for my church it doesn’t really do social events or have many young people

[Dongie]

So how far from Boston are you?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Out of curiosity tho, were those the things that worked for you?

[Dongie]

Yeah, I scanned it quickly and answered. Sorry.

[Dongie]

No. I usually went to clubs and pool halls. 😅