With Valentine's Day quickly approaching and the romance and love everywhere it makes me think of those romantic relationships that weren't meant to be and just couldn't last, not because a lack of love but because sometimes too much is stacked against them.
Have you been in this situation? What stood in your way?
I think most of us have been here. Perhaps, it wasn't even a true relationship because you knew before it even started there was no way it could end in anything more than heartache and disappointment.
I've thought about it from time to time. Wondered what it could have been like if the stars had aligned and things would have gone differently.
Do you think about them anymore?
Most Helpful Guy
I am a happily married business professional. I have never cheated, except (sort of) once, the 1 woman that made me think of leaving my wife. I work with colleagues in Europe. About 6 years ago my company hired a woman there. She traveled to the U. S. for me to train. She was striking, tall, blonde and almost 20 years my junior. We hit it off immediately. She was here a week. We saw a lot of each other... work, lunches and a couple dinners (not alone, with other colleagues). I was smitten but didn't do anything inappropriate. But it seemed she was attracted to me, even mildly flirting. Shortly after she left I politely inquired about her. I found out she is a confirmed lesbian, & living with another woman! Oh my God I felt like a fool, a deluded old man. So the next time I talked to her, I was nice but professional. After a few minutes, she asked what was wrong, I wasn't my "friendly" self. I confessed all and began to apologize. She interrupted, laughed and said "No you you idiot, I really like you. You didn't get that?" Now I am forking confused. But aren't you living with a woman? She said yes, but she's been attracted to a few men in her life. Somehow I had joined that small list. And she felt like our flirting was harmless because we work well together and I was a gentleman. For 3 years our friendship grew half a world away. We continued to not only flirt, but grow closer. But no sex chat, no pictures, none of that. Then she visited my office again for a 2 week project. First time we were alone I told her I loved her, and she said she loved me too, and we kissed passionately. We were inseparable those 2 weeks, found times to be alone. We held hands, kissed, but no sex. We didn't even talk about sex or the future at all. It was like we knew we would make love only if we decided to be together. On her last night sitting on my car outside her hotel room, she finally told me she didn't know what to do, whether she wanted to be with her girlfriend or try to move to the U. S. for me. I knew she would've invited me to her room if I asked. Instead I looked into her eyes and said, I love you, but we will probably never see each other again, & that's probably best. We cried, kissed, held each other, said goodbye. When she got back she told me she couldn't wreck my marriage, and I agreed. We never mentioned it again & we worked well together 2 more years. She left the company 9 mths ago & we haven't talked since. I think of her every day, think I always will.
Most Helpful Girl
Yes. I think about them a lot still. I don't think I could ever forget them. My biggest wish one day is to see them again.