Is it normal to feel depressed I never had a valentine on Valentine’s Day at 23?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You being single at 23, not having a date for Valentines (or Sweetest Day, or St Swithin's Day, or every Rex Manning Day, for that matter...) doesn't really mean much (or doesn't have to). It's just an interesting factoid or quirk. Say you meet someone who will sweep you off your feet next Monday, and it lasts for a few years... or the rest of your life... you being single on Martin Luther King Jr Day, or Valentine's Day before won't really matter, looking back. And if you don't date soon after... still doesn't matter that much, and it doesn't make you ugly or unattractive because you didn't have a date for Valentines Day 2024 (no matter what Hollywood or your friends might say). And it's not bad for you to feel bad or lonely about it, though you probably shouldn't let it get to you THAT deeply.

If you find the love of your life at 30, or 35, and it's a happy relationship, and it's not toxic, and you fall in love and have a profound thing - that might just be a success. And if it's a great relationship, either that stuff about you being single , even assuming it was EVERY Valentines Day up till that first day together, won't really matter (or it will be seen as a positive).

Drew-1990 · Accepted Answer

It is but don't let it drag you down, I'm 33 and never had a Valentines. And there are way more than you think who are the same. If I can survive it you can for sure. And looking at your pic if that is you, you are pretty someone is going to want you, I wouldn't be surprised if some already do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s ok to feel sad BUT…

Put it in perspective a little.
So many people are living without love in their lives right now. They have literally no one. No parents, friends, lost touch with family, etc. Think about the love you have in your life from those around you.
Also, when you DO have your special valentine it’ll be just that…special. I’d rather have one valentine forever than several. I’ve also never had an official valentine in a romantic sense.
Lastly, there are so many people in awful relationships. I’m not saying that as self-soothing rhetoric but more-so because it is reality. A lot of people are in bad relationships with someone who doesn’t care about them, abuses them verbally and physically, has a wandering eye, cheats, doesn’t meet them halfway, etc. I think it’s important to know that it’s better to wait for the match that’s meant for you than to simply rush and fill a void that’s merely temporary.
I hope that helps.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I’m 26 and I haven’t either 😆 lmao . WHO CARES! That’s some BS to steal your money anyway! Like any other BS holiday there is. All of that mental illness is theft to make you buy shit 🫵 All those marriages and relationships don’t even last anyway. You’ve any idea how many married men are purchasing sex workers? You’ve any idea how many ab—sive marriages and relationships there are? You’ve any idea how miserable people in relationships really are.  It’s all a façade to look like someone choose them. 😆 What a joke.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I would say so. I'm 24 and have never had one (will be 25 later this year).

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Yes, however, you’re still so young. You’ve got plenty of time to get a valentine.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, totally normal.

Overandunder89 · Answer

Yes,  but is it more important for you to realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Mentally and emotionally, it's easy to find yourself going down that road when it seems like other people around you are effortlessly getting what you've never been able to find for yourself. This could be due to any number of factors, but just know that in all likelihood it has absolutely nothing to do with you not being attractive enough or something of that sort. You just have to figure out what it is and make whatever change is necessary to get what you want out of life. I've been there before and it took awhile for me to figure it out, but once I did things in my love life improved significantly and have been that way ever since.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Rape a homeless man. If you get caught just say he looked like he wanted it.

DextroShade · Answer

You are 23 and you have never had a guy take you seriously?

You have definitely passed up many suitable men who would have been your valentine to chase Chad and ride the cock carousel. You have no one to blame but yourself.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It can be, but I never think of this for a day  just  for couples it is a day for love. Love yourself or show some friends or family some love. I am sure they would appreciate it too <3

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Yes, it’s normal but you’d rather celebrate loving yourself than being in an unhappy toxic relationship for the sake of having a valentine

bobalife · Answer

Yeah, it’s normal. Sending hugs ❤️💝 it’s okay to be alone and give yourself self-love or have galentines :)

Anonymous · Answer

It’s normal. I am sorry you’re going through this. But yes and holiday can be hard for people for a number of reasons. Alllw yourself to grieve and maybe see a mental health professional

JacobJordan · Answer

If it means so much to you yeah. I normalized doing romantic things year round so Valentine's day is just another day.

Dargil · Answer

It's a made up commercial holiday like Halloween. Better to be depressed on your birthday or Christmas if you are alone.

ItsMariusz · Answer

I guess it's normal if you want it badly, but I have no such issues.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes I would say for a guy or girl who never had a valentines, then it would be normal,

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  y'all taking that day waaay to serious. I'm 28 and never had a girlfriend, but I dont give a damn for Valentine's. Treat it like a normal Wednesday

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You're OK. I didn't have a valentines till I was 36. And I got dumped on valentines day

gorydetails · Answer

It's overrated to be with someone on VD. If you're lonely and need a boyfriend in general, that's a separate issue.

Paul09 · Answer

Not normal at all. F valentines day. It was created by companies to sell stuff at double the price. Nothing else. Love is a everyday thing. So do not worry about it.

AngryCarl · Answer

I don't know what's normal for young women nowadays. When I was your age I certainly found it depressing. Now I'm more aware that it's just a racket to sell cards and flowers.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Meh, maybe. I’ve personally never let Valentine’s Day get me down.

sheikalana · Answer

No need to be sad. I didn't celebrate a Valentine's day until I was on my late 20s.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't understand why anyone even acknowledges the holiday to begin with.

Anonymous · Answer

U are a very attractive girl. I am surprised u never had someone. Sure, I'd be depressed and would feel like I was missing out on dating.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

You are young so in time you will tbh it's over rated anyway rather someone kind sweet and caring everyday than on valentines day

Anonymous · Answer

don't worry about it, you're not missing out on much

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Yeah that's normal. Valentine's day is stupid anyway lol

grega239 · Answer

Im 31. Never had it either. Its just a day.  No need to feel depressed

ab2shifty · Answer

Yeah it’s normal, usually I just spend the day with my homies and mess around 🤣

BLP11520 · Answer

It happens to people it’s normal to feel strange about it😐

Anonymous · Answer

Damn... and ur CUTE too... I definitely can't win against ur looks😦😦

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 26 and never had a valentine on Valentine's day but I've not been down but plenty drunk however

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I've NEVER HAD ONE AT 42

Somegirl124 · Answer

You still got plenty of time ahead of you for that.

Metapigs · Answer

No I didn’t have my first valentine until last year! We’re just selective that’s all!

Anonymous · Answer

Im 36, how do you think I feel not getting one ever

Anonymous · Answer

Well Happy Valentines 💝 🍾 💐 🌹 🌸 ❤. ( Hope you're cheered up now)

HelpfulWoman · Answer

normal yes rational no

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Yeah I probably will be tomorrow too

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I guess it is normal if you want it badly

nawtee_me · Answer

Have a Happy Valentin’s Day….

Saamee · Answer

Lol never had valentine 😅

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Very normal

Anonymous · Answer

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