You being single at 23, not having a date for Valentines (or Sweetest Day, or St Swithin's Day, or every Rex Manning Day, for that matter...) doesn't really mean much (or doesn't have to). It's just an interesting factoid or quirk. Say you meet someone who will sweep you off your feet next Monday, and it lasts for a few years... or the rest of your life... you being single on Martin Luther King Jr Day, or Valentine's Day before won't really matter, looking back. And if you don't date soon after... still doesn't matter that much, and it doesn't make you ugly or unattractive because you didn't have a date for Valentines Day 2024 (no matter what Hollywood or your friends might say). And it's not bad for you to feel bad or lonely about it, though you probably shouldn't let it get to you THAT deeply.
If you find the love of your life at 30, or 35, and it's a happy relationship, and it's not toxic, and you fall in love and have a profound thing - that might just be a success. And if it's a great relationship, either that stuff about you being single , even assuming it was EVERY Valentines Day up till that first day together, won't really matter (or it will be seen as a positive).
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It is but don't let it drag you down, I'm 33 and never had a Valentines. And there are way more than you think who are the same. If I can survive it you can for sure. And looking at your pic if that is you, you are pretty someone is going to want you, I wouldn't be surprised if some already do.
It’s ok to feel sad BUT…
Put it in perspective a little.
So many people are living without love in their lives right now. They have literally no one. No parents, friends, lost touch with family, etc. Think about the love you have in your life from those around you.
Also, when you DO have your special valentine it’ll be just that…special. I’d rather have one valentine forever than several. I’ve also never had an official valentine in a romantic sense.
Lastly, there are so many people in awful relationships. I’m not saying that as self-soothing rhetoric but more-so because it is reality. A lot of people are in bad relationships with someone who doesn’t care about them, abuses them verbally and physically, has a wandering eye, cheats, doesn’t meet them halfway, etc. I think it’s important to know that it’s better to wait for the match that’s meant for you than to simply rush and fill a void that’s merely temporary.
I hope that helps.
Well I’m 26 and I haven’t either 😆 lmao.
WHO CARES! That’s some BS to steal your money anyway! Like any other BS holiday there is. All of that mental illness is theft to make you buy shit 🫵
All those marriages and relationships don’t even last anyway. You’ve any idea how many married men are purchasing sex workers? You’ve any idea how many ab—sive marriages and relationships there are? You’ve any idea how miserable people in relationships really are.
It’s all a façade to look like someone choose them. 😆What a joke.
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I would say so. I'm 24 and have never had one (will be 25 later this year).
Yes, however, you’re still so young. You’ve got plenty of time to get a valentine.
Rape a homeless man. If you get caught just say he looked like he wanted it.
Yes, totally normal.
Yes, but is it more important for you to realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Mentally and emotionally, it's easy to find yourself going down that road when it seems like other people around you are effortlessly getting what you've never been able to find for yourself. This could be due to any number of factors, but just know that in all likelihood it has absolutely nothing to do with you not being attractive enough or something of that sort. You just have to figure out what it is and make whatever change is necessary to get what you want out of life. I've been there before and it took awhile for me to figure it out, but once I did things in my love life improved significantly and have been that way ever since.
You are 23 and you have never had a guy take you seriously?
You have definitely passed up many suitable men who would have been your valentine to chase Chad and ride the cock carousel. You have no one to blame but yourself.
It can be, but I never think of this for a day just for couples it is a day for love. Love yourself or show some friends or family some love. I am sure they would appreciate it too <3
Yes, it’s normal but you’d rather celebrate loving yourself than being in an unhappy toxic relationship for the sake of having a valentine
Yeah, it’s normal. Sending hugs ❤️💝 it’s okay to be alone and give yourself self-love or have galentines :)
If it means so much to you yeah. I normalized doing romantic things year round so Valentine's day is just another day.
It's a made up commercial holiday like Halloween. Better to be depressed on your birthday or Christmas if you are alone.
It’s normal. I am sorry you’re going through this. But yes and holiday can be hard for people for a number of reasons. Alllw yourself to grieve and maybe see a mental health professional
I guess it's normal if you want it badly, but I have no such issues.
Yes I would say for a guy or girl who never had a valentines, then it would be normal,
You're OK. I didn't have a valentines till I was 36. And I got dumped on valentines day
It's overrated to be with someone on VD. If you're lonely and need a boyfriend in general, that's a separate issue.
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y'all taking that day waaay to serious. I'm 28 and never had a girlfriend, but I dont give a damn for Valentine's. Treat it like a normal Wednesday
Not normal at all. F valentines day. It was created by companies to sell stuff at double the price. Nothing else. Love is a everyday thing. So do not worry about it.
I don't know what's normal for young women nowadays. When I was your age I certainly found it depressing. Now I'm more aware that it's just a racket to sell cards and flowers.
Meh, maybe. I’ve personally never let Valentine’s Day get me down.
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