The guy I’ve been dating since December didn’t ask me to be his valentine. Should I say something?

[domo0906]

I reconnected with an ex and we’ve been dating again since December and he hasn’t not mentioned anything about Valentine’s Day. He’s talked about upcoming date night ideas but nothing for valentines.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that is a kinda awkward situation. I guess since you guys have been dating again since December, most people would probably expect him to ask you to be his valentine by now. Valentine's Day is usually a big deal for couples. I wouldn't want you to get all stressed about it though! Some guys can be pretty clueless about these kinds of things too.

Maybe he's just taking it slow since it's an ex you reconnected with, and doesn't wanna seem too pushy or something. Or possibly he's got something planned already and wants it to be a surprise. Who knows, dudes can be weird sometimes! I'd say just bring it up casuallly, like "Hey so Valentine's Day is coming up, any plans?" and see how he reacts. Pay attention to like his body language and stuff too when you ask.

If he seems weird or doesn't have any ideas, then yeah maybe that's a sign he's not super into it. But hopefully he's got something in mind! Try talking to him and don't freak out just yet. Maybe give him a little nudge so he knows it's something you'd wanna do. Communication is important, right? Hope it all works out and you end up having a good Valentine's Day whether it's with him or doing your own thing! Keep me posted on what happens!

[domo0906]

Thank you! We talked about Valentine’s Day plans and since he did not plan anything and if we were to go out it would be really hard to get a table at any restaurant we decided to wait until the weekend to celebrate.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh good, I'm glad you guys were able to talk about it! Waiting until the weekend is probably a smart move anyway, since everywhere is always so packed on Valentine's Day itself. At least this way you won't have to stress about getting a reservation.

It was cool that he was willing to discuss it with you instead of just leaving you hanging with no plans. Definitely better to be on the same page about what's happening. And celebrating a little late is still celebrating, right? As long as you two get to do something fun and couple-y together.

I'd just make sure he actually comes through with taking you out this weekend! Maybe send some subtle hints about what you'd like to do so he has ideas. Us guys can be kinda oblivious sometimes when it comes to making plans.

But it seems like it all worked out okay after your talk. Good communication is important in a relationship, so I'm glad you spoke up about wanting to feel special for Valentine's Day. Have fun celebrating this weekend, and I hope he steps it up with the romance! Fingers crossed for you.

[Anonymous]

Did you you ask him to be your Valentine? Maybe he was waiting for you to say someting. I've never understood why women just wait passively for the man to do everything.

[domo0906]

I want to believe that romance isn’t dead and it was our first valentine being together again and I wanted him to make the gesture. If it was a long term relationship already then I wouldn’t have mind to be the one planning something

[Opinion Owner]

Can you explain why you felt he should be the one to make the gesture because it was your first valentine being together again? I don't understand that. Why would he not rightly have the same expectation of you? This is an honest question, so please just help me understand.

[laly520]

no point in saying anything
he will say it if he wants me

[laly520]

you*

[bowenw]

Personally I wouldn't in case he's planning a surprise. If he doesn't do anything I would ask him what he did for Valentine's Day.