he knew it was our anniversary. he was "away" for 3 years, and i know he didn't have money for anything... though his dad has given him money and such but he spends it on video games. ok, so he was in prison, i know he's trying to enjoy things he couldn't do for 3 years, but anyways. i got all dressed up nice, he dressed as well as he could, and i took him out to dinner, paying for everything (nice girlfriend i am). he seemed in a hurry to get through dinner, because he wanted to watch the movie i got him as my anniversary gift to him, that he wanted soooo badly. anywas, we ordered what we wanted. he took only a few bites of his dinner, then excused himself to the bathroom. he doesn't have a cell phone, so he couldn'r of been texting anyone. he smiled at me a couple times, but as soon as i was finished eating, he was ready to go, even though i had a coupon for a free dessert. anyways, we just boxed our stuff and left. a made a few wrong turns on the way back to his house, he was getting a bit upset, cuz he REALLY wanted to watch that movie. anways, we got home, and he decided to finish his dinner there. i told him how i was upset that he didn't say thank you for dinner, he said that he though he had told me, but he really didn't, then he said sorry and started hugging and kissing me. after, we had to go watch the movie, which sucked in my opinion... but i started tearing up, cuz i was upset that he didn't say happy anniversary or even as much as make me a card. is it bad that i feel this way, am i9 over reacting? i waited 3 years for him to get out of prison, and he didn't even try to make OUR anniversary special, it seemed to be all about him. he was very affectionate though after i told him how i felt. it was kinda rude of him though to talk about our sex life at dinner, asking if i had my lingerie with me and saying i need to initiate more. what do you all think?
My boyfriend didn't say happy anniversary, or get me anything, is that bad?
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Sounds like a loser. You could do better.
That's mild.
what do you mean by that?
It's neither horrible nor good.
should i just forget about it and see how things go, or should i tell him how upset i was again?
I'd keep moving forward but instead of just letting it go just keep it in mind silently. Judge his actions and his commitments going forward but leverage this fairly; if he is generally dependable don't hold it against him as if he's failed you completely.
thank you, very well said, and good advice :)
Oh no. I don't actually give good advice. You must burn this in fire.
-.- sarcasm
,_, I'm serious. I rarely, if ever, accidently give good advice. I guess this is one of those rare times.
i understood where you were coming from with your answer. i'll keep track if things seem to be all about him and what not, and to see if he's showing me affection out of guilt. i love him... i wouldn't of waited 3 years for him to get out of prison otherwise. i guess as long as he treats me well, that's all that matters. i don't want to break things off; i[m just very upset that he couldn't do anyting for ME for OUR anniversary.
Well, yeah, that's understandable though.