Does no contact really work to get your ex back?

I know where you are coming from. Take my advice and keep working on yourself. Make sure you are happy. If he never comes around at least you are happy by yourself or until another prince charming comes into view. I know you probably don't want to hear that. I have been broken up with my girlfriend for a few months now. When you love someone you just love them. You can't explain it or get away from it. I too have been working on myself staying happy and busy. She started calling me again telling me she missed me and wanted only me. She has a new boyfriend right now. If she wants me back she will have to leave this other guy and really show me something. She will have to apologize to me. Don't let him off the hook or back in too soon. Especially if he is with another girl. Just keep doing your thing. No worries.

If you want your ex back and you ignore them, that's called "silent treatment." The trouble with the silent treatment is that a) it's manipulative and abusive, and b) you're assuming that he wants to get back with you. What if he's not interested in dating again? What if he's happier now? If so, you're devoting a lot of time and energy to a worthless task.

No Contact is a method that you use after a relationship that will help you heal and recover. No Contact means that you refuse to be friends, refuse to stay in contact, refuse to boost their ego or be a back-up plan. They're dead to you -- I mean forever.

Good luck.

hiya, I did this with my boyfriend. I did NC from month 2 - 5 and then he staretd to contact me. I know it was quite a while but I work with him so saw him everyday just didn't talk to him so we were kind of forced together. I defintaely believe it works but you have to stick at it, I'm awful at doing that. it also puts your in a better frame of mind. good luck hun xxxx

It may or it may not. It will definitely show that if he comes back, it was meant to be. But over the time where there is absence, the 'hate' of the moment (whatever the reason) will be lost and he will only remember the good (unless he really is one who broods on the past fights) and miss you. Keep it up. If he told you to leave him alone, do what he wants. He'll regret it if he does miss you.

I think the longest you can go with that method is about a month and if it's beyond that,some people choose to go on. I wouldn't initiate communication if I was the one who was dumped either however let at least 2 weeks go by in which you can think whether or not you truly want to be with him for the right reasons or not. after you have a clear decision, then I'd see if I can "accidentally" bump into him if I know where he usually hangs out. and tell him you want to talk-

I agree with the first guy. No contact is not a ploy to get someone back. Out of sight out of mind as they say. It is said for a reason.

I wouldn't talk to him for about a week and a half. He dumped me. Then when he met me up for lunch and to give me closure...oh yeah, I did call him finally and said can we meet to exchange stuff and so I can get closure. By the end of our talk he was begging me back.

If he really just has no more love for you, then no contact will help you get over him but it won't bring him back. Nothing can bring a person back who doesn't love you anymore.

I was dumped in a pretty horrible way by my boyfriend of 3 years. We had been living together for 2 of those years and he was convinced I was the love of his life. He had never connected to anyone like he had to me. When the breakup happened and I started no contact it did not bring him back to me. But what it did do is give me the space I needed to realize the reason he "loved" me so much was because of the things I would do for him. He was always up front about being very focused on himself and he treated his friends and family the same way, only talking to them when he needed something. So, when I finally couldn't live with doing all the giving and not getting the attention in return he used to give me, well he was over it.

I hope the distance will give you time to reconsider what is going on and get to a better place.

Oh babe :( I'm in exactly the same situation. I've cut all ties with my ex at the moment because I could bear to hear him going on about his new woman. Keep it up and stay strong, you're doing the right thing. Use this time to concentrate on yourself and start doing other things to take your mind off him. Sometimes you have to let something go to see if it was worth having in the first place. Best of luck sweetheart ...xx