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Ok. I guess you can say my parents are kinda old fashioned. As in really old fashioned. I don't even know when I am allowed to date. The thing is I'm kinda too scared to ask. As in really scared to ask. I know that you guys are going to say just ask them. But my parents are much different than yours. They hold high expectations for me (as in straight A's, no detention, and NO BOYS). I don't wanna use the excuse that everyone has one, because come on...my parents are just gonna say "If everyone jumped off a bridge would you?" I don't even think that my parents know that I even like guys...as in like like. They don't let me hang out with guys. If they were to know that I call guys they would flip.
As a teenager of this century I think it's kinda hard to have parents from last century. And it doesn't help that my parents are Haitian. There are like a million and one rules when it comes to having Haitian parents. You can't do this, you can't wear that, you can't talk like this, you have to respect that. I just want to be like a normal teenage girl.
It's not like I just want to date for the heck of it. I actually have this boy in mind. He's really nice, funny, cute, and smart. Yea I know he's got the whole package. Anyway I know he likes me. But he's just to shy to ask me out...well he kinda did in a way. He asked me to go to the movies with him...but he didn't use the exact words "on a date" or "as my girlfriend" or anything. But I'm pretty sure he would've asked me out if I went with him. But of course I had to turn him down because if I were to ask my mom, she would have murdered me. brought me back to life.. and then make me clean up the mess =[ yea she's pretty harsh. My point is I don't want him to ask me out and I have to say no because I'm not allowed.
So I know this was kinda long.. but the bottom line is how do I get my parents to let me date (keep in mind that they're very strict) without them blowing up at me.
Sounds like you're just too afraid. That might be the main problem. Seriously. Almost everyone thinks their parents are old fashioned, but they haven't ever pushed the boundaries. You might find out that you've gained their respect after meeting these high expectations for so long. Seriously, if you've never tried asking, you don't know that it's not going to work.
Well, Parents are possibly the hardest thing to overcome in life.You could always use the "I'm going to do it whether you want me to or not,Not letting me date just makes me want to DATE more". If your parents are as old fashion as you say,sit them down and give them the 'Teenage to Parent' talk.Tell them how you are old enough to make your own decisions,and re-assure them that nothing will happen.Tell them to give you a curfew,maybe even timed interval phone calls so they can check up on you to see if your alright.Another thing I suggest to gain trust is instead of a solo date,bring a couple more friends so your parents won't look at it as a "Date". Don't say this right away,just start small talk and then start telling them how you and a couple friends are going out to the movies,maybe then tell how you have feelings for this boy,etc.
You have to haggle with them,start off with small wishes and then progress as they gain your trust.Let them meet this boy you have in mind so they can get a good outlook on him,you definitely won't go anywhere if you keep this boy a secret and you'll end up having to wait till your 30 to even talk to a guy.
Hi girlie. Well, my parents were like this too until I turned 16, graduated, and got a part time job. I was hardly ever allowed to go to a friends house after school let alone date.
So I turned 16, and it was like they didn't care any more. I went nutts, I mean crazy. Then had my first daughter at 19. I was sheltered all my life, then it was like the flood gates were opened. (I am 29 now and much tamer!)
My answer for you is to just ask. Reassure them that you are a strong individual capable of making good decisions. Thats what parents love to hear. (: If all else fails tell em my story and what COULD happen!!
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
A day at the beach or pool , then a casual place for dinner, then for a walk on the beach to look at the stars. Then the hot tub back at my place. I wear a little summer dress and you wear ripped jeans and a nice shirt. Falling asleep talking and watching a movie.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
Anything he wants to. Except what I look like without my clothes on. We'll save that for the second date.
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