Why are women so disrespectful to guys that aren't good looking?

The same reason men are mean to ugly girls.

To be honest, the reason is that these girls are insecure and they feel like if an ugly guy hits on them then they must be "in his league." If they don't want to be in his league/ think of themselves that way, they are going to react badly. It's a horrible way to behave, and there is no defence for it, but that's the reason.

Although some of these reactions are completely INSANE and way beyond normal insecurity.

The world is cruel to unattractive people. Lots of guys treat ugly girls the same way. It seems like you are chasing after the bitchy hot girls. Maybe you should try the less attractive girls, they are usually nicer.

You just don't walk up to hot girls and try to be overly polite and nice and say stuff like "nice hair"... that's just creepy and despo, dude. The sooner you realize that, better. Women DO NOT want guys to be submissive and weak around them. I've seen some really ugly guys get hot gfs so don't tell me that the root of these problems is your ugliness because its not. The problem lies in your personality, in you letting people walk all over you.

Newport's answer is near perfect.. "There has to be something your not telling us like when you told her she has nice hair. "

Obviously these women have issues. I have dated all types of men before. Their actions toward you just shows what type of women they are. Looks are not everything. Be who you are and in the long run someone will like you for you and not what you look like.

i think what these girls did was absurd.
and something I would never do.
but it does make me uncomfortable when a complete stranger compliments me. I just say thank you and try to get away. it doesn't matter what the dude looks like. I guess I don't feel that confident about myself, and a complete stranger saying stuff is uncomfortable.
just try to get to know them and be fun and nice and save the compliements for the second or third date. they will already know you like something about them when you ask them out.
and try not to pour on the compliements too thick either. just a little here and there.

I hope I don't act like that when I'm 26-31 :p
all I can say is, maybe you're talking to women who are stuck up bitches.
Try talking to a nice, polite girl. She may not be as hot, but she definately won't
treat you like shit if you compliment her.

i am so so sorry they are setting a bad reputation for all women but not all women are like that I know I am not like that and I would never do that I would only slap you if you deserved it other wise I wouldent do it at all and I would never do the other stuff that the women have done to you on here and it has nothing to do with you at all it all has to do with them and there messed up minds so when a women does that to you again just don't blame your self and get the police to take away those crazy women who do that to you p.s. happy new year I hope things get better for you

i hope you realize not all girls are like that!

I suspect that all your bad experiences are making you bitter. Knock it off! Try to keep positive, and also try to approach different types of girls than the ones you've been rejected by. You might've been just unfortunate enough to run across really mean girls.

WOW. Sounds like you're attracted to some immature, childish bitches. Find WOMEN not LITTLE GIRLS.

Well, I'm 23, and I think the women you have met are complete bitches. WHO SLAPS SOMEONE!? that's ridiculous.

I will tell you that if you meet a girl in a bar, she will be superficial. Bars are not the place to meet women especially if you're looking for something more than someone to just go home with for the night.

Have a friend set you up with someone who is a real woman, who can be at least polite if she is not interested in you.

Remember, girls play with the bad boys who look like Brad Pitt, but when they're finally ready to settle down, they look for someone with a little more depth to them than just good looks. Hang in there, the right girl will come along!

Girls can be mean - to guys and girls if they aren't so good looking/attractive!
I absolutely hate when they act cocky.
Personally I am polite to every guy I talk to, what it has to do with the looks,
ofc I'm paying big attention to what I'm saying because I don't want
to flirt with a guy I don't fancy!

Not all women ar elike that.
It's called 'consideration' and 'compassion' and 'respect'
These women who are mean, maybe have some sort of self-esteem issue, they are naturally bitchy and like to put others down so they can feel good about themselves - this behaviour is very sad and not good at all.
I mean, what if they meet this same person in the future and the guy is suddenly really hot and loaded with money, they won't consider dating those mean women.
I mean, it all comes down to basically having compassion and being civil and mannered.
My parents brought me up in a household where we respect each other, treat others as how we would like to be treated ourselves, to not make fun of people (obviously because it is hurtful to other peoples and it's just not right)
Sometimes, you have to work on it yourself
I wasn't the prettiest girl in highschool, so I learnt to use makeup and exercised, and now I'm quite attractive and lots of gus notice me, so, sometimes being pro-active about the matter helps as well.
It goes both ways ^_^

I think the issue is people at large here. People don't like ugly things.It brings unpleasant feelings to the fore front. Plus, a lot of people are stereotypical in their mindset. For some reason things that are pretty are glorified and portrayed to always be good and right and all of the positives of life, and the ugly are automatically assumed to desereve it.

So keeping that in mind, a pretty person that meets what they deem to be an ugly person with a prettier personality with them will make them extremely uncomfortable. This happened to a friend of mine once: She is extremely gorgeous, and she went out on a date with a guy that she said was not attractive at all and she behaved horridly to him. She felt bad about doing it afterward, but at the same time if you aren't the least bit physically attracted to the person she knew there was no possibility of a relationship. And even more she was jealous that he was able to be so nice and act likehe wasnt ugly at all, not self-conscious, not anything, just a down to earth good guy. She said she felt like shy pitied him because he deserved to be handsome and that it made her feel even worse because there was no way she deserved to be pretty when she had a worse disposition then him.

There is also another problem going on subconsciously for a lot of women: they want to have physically attractive children. For somereason physically attractive is associated with being healthier. On top ofthat, if you are poor, your offspring have a better chance of improving their life via marriage or careers or education if they feel confident in their looks. Basically -they don't want their kids to have the same issues you are going through right now. Yes, that is shallow, I know, but there you go.

In the long term, most women will realize that they want the nice guy instead of the abercrombie and fitch model. It just takes along time, and I am truly sorry about that. Maybe try switchin up the venues you pick up girls at, because that too will determine the kind of guy they are looking for. My bet is ifyou look into places like libraries, coffee shops, music shops, museums and the like you will find more girls into the nice guy then the beautiful body builder in her mind.

wow all I can say is you meet some f***ed up women
im not like that

wow that is fuking awful I'm sorry girls are like this, I never knew how seriously bitchy girls can be but not to THAT extreme. They obviously have problems just think twice before giving the "right" girl a compliment

OMG, ok i`m a girl and I just think that, what is happening to you is totally freakin` wrong.
The girls you are approaching seem to be the wrong type of girls for you, maybe that`s the problem. Orit`s where you live. Because around here, a lot of not so good looking guys can be seen with drop dead gorgeous females. Maybe you should try approaching other girls besides those kinds. Maybe you`re attracted to snobby bitches and they`re not attracted to you. Don`t worry about their judgments, cause i`m sure they look amess themselves. NO ONE is perfect. So you know what don`t worry about it .


but I feel so bad. . it`snot every girl who`s like them though . they should learn some effin` respect !

I'm a girl, and I've heard stories like this quite a bit. The funny part about it all, is most guys like you won't get the attention you want from a good looking girl for a LONG TIME, but you're gonna end up with some hot chick being your wife. I swear it almost always happens like that, and then suddenly all the girls will want you.

But wow those girls are REAL bitches for what they did to you.mace, and making you walk after you fainted? that's ridiculous

I think these women you encountered are few and far in between. Either you have the darnest luck of meeting the worlds worst women, or your that ugly.


I'm kidding on the latter. ;)

Girls are bitches

because women, in general, are disrespectful of men.

I can honestly say I am not an attractive guy. I have never been treated like that though. There has to be something your not telling us like when you told her she has nice hair. no woman I have ever met doesn't like being told something nice about her, even if she is a "stone cold queen bitch" the worst that can happen is she rolls her eyes, laughs at you, shakes her head or some other type of body language showing disapproval. Woman are not inclined to violence, it takes a lot to get slapped in the face by a woman. Somehow you hurt her, I mean was she balding? and she took your comment as being sarcasitic?


I have a feeling you come across as being arrogant or being a smart-ass. Although you might not think you are. Now think about it, your good-looking friends can get away with a lot more crap than you can cause...they are attractive. Sucks but its true, better to be realitic about it. Just be honest with yourself and realize you can get away with the things they can. Be yourself, not them.

Just think about how much crap you'll take from a super hot woman and if a less attractive female (whatever you consider less attractive) did that same exact thing...you would get quickly annoyed with her.

Hopefully you don't slap the less attractive woman...


Not sure how I can help you but your situation seems like comedy. Some of your stories seem a bit unrealistic like the hair slap story and the church lady making you walk 7miles home. and the mace story sounds like something from a Jim Carrey movie.

The handhshake story seems realistic, it can happen.
and being told your not goodlooking enough to be nice to her sounds realistic. Some women can be rude jerks just like some guys.



Bottom line: Be yourself, not your friends. It seems your personality type doesn't fit your appearance. Also think about this, when you meet a lady do you have something in the back of your mind telling you "Somethings going to go wrong"?

ummmm what bitches... and I'm sorry but the mace thing kinda made me laugh...gotta laugh at another persons pain sometimes when isn't life threatening lol. anyways I mean I could see if you had like warts all over your face why they would freak out but not being the best looking guy in the place isn't a reason to be rude

I think just to show that they are superior... but in reality we guys know that they are shallow.

Guess what; they don't have any respect for guys that are good looking either!

just the way some chicks are man HA not even they understand why they do this. but ahh the mace one...dam...were you wearing a hockey mack or something?

Big question, what kind of girls are you seeing? Like I have said to many girls on this site who complain about "all men" being jerks, where I believe they just go straight for the bad boys, passing up the genuine guys, get treated badly, whine about all men sucking, find another bad boy, and complete the cycle (again). Are you seeking the out-of-your reach stuck up "hot" girls? Most hot girls are bitches. I stopped looking up to them in high school, and found that attractiveness is mostly from the inside. The girls that "aren't that pretty" are also the sweetest and most gentlest ones I have ever met.

Or do you come off disrespectful? I mean, I do some of the things you do, like picking stuff up for them or opening doors, and I am never treated that bad. And I don't consider myself attractive by a long shot.

As for the girl from church.I'd question her faith. What a Bitch (capital B intended)! Leaving someone who blacked out behind IS NOT something that God would look up upon. I hope she knows how to confess or repent.

I would almost pay to see your picture.

I've been slapped and for no reason and she laughed. Luckily, it was a one time deal. Simply put, I had no clue what I to say so I just left.

Later on, she happened to be in a class I was in; she was always trying to talk to me. So, I just asked her why she had slapped me. Especially when she didn't even really know me. See, she was addicted to a lot of drugs that made her really insane. Cocaine, speed, heroin, etc, so she probably thought it was funny.

I'm cautious to believe this stuff, because I've not been slapped. Girls just don't want anything to do with me. It's rare when I can have a decent conversation with a girl. They think I'm ugly, they think I'm worthless, and that I'm incredibly stupid. But, even girls don't usually slap me unless they're on something.

If this happened, it may be that they're on drugs/ drunk or just messed up in the head. Not that this is an excuse for them to do that, because it's still not right.

Otherwise, it could be some terrible misunderstanding; like you were nervous and looked down when you said "nice hair" and the girl thought you were staring at her crotch and making a filthy comment about THAT hair.

As for the other situations I can't tell you. Even for the examples above, not being there, I can only guess at what it could be.

Did anyone help you when you passed out? Was anyone around? What about those people?

I think it's obvious, stay away from these women.

There are only two possibilities here; you are either the unluckiest guy out there or your story is full of crap. I'm going with the latter. Your story sounds like a Jekyll-Hyde guy whine for attention.

GAG must see pics.

I'm calling BS on this nonsense.

dude you won't get anymore answers on this question.

I think the problem may have to do with demographics (where you live), and maybe that you look creepy or sound creepy.

Other than that, yes, I'd agree girls are far more vain than guys.

Sometimes some girls do that. I remember one girl once told me that I am too ugly to get her attention. Get over it. I mean I can't remain bitter and hamper my happiness and good mood for some girl who thinks that she is too good for me.