Why do guys take advantage of nice girls??

Here's why they do it:

Too many nice girls are easy targets. Nice girls, and nice guys tend to be trusting, often at the expense of their common sense. You can still be nice but also keep your eyes wide open for any potential warning signs that a guy is bad news. Does he have a temper? Has he ever hit you or something else? Does his conversations revolving around mature subject matter or is he always caught up with immature topics? Is he pushing you for sex?

The problem lies not only with the guys, but the girls themselves. Simply put, too many nice girls make excuses for the failures of not-so-nice boys. ("He only hit me once, and I started the argument, so I guess I kind of deserved it.") Nobody deserves to be disrespected, be it through physical means or emotional for that matter either. If you set your standards clearly early on in a relationship, the man will have to respect them otherwise you'll make good on your threat of leaving him, AND DO.

A lot of boys these days are growing up without father figures in their lives. This is a tragedy of untold proportions. When a young man isn't taught how to treat a woman, he'll revert back to selfish and immature behavior. Even boys that love their mothers need a man around, period. Men learn respect from other men. If a boy isn't taught to respect, he's going to struggle through much of life. I highly recommend you take a look at fatherless statistics and studies. I'd wager money that the non-so-nice boys you're dealing with have a disproportionately high number of bad or no relationship at all with their father, even a strong male figure period.

The problem as it relates to girls is that if the boy doesn't know how to respect by the time he meets you, he's not going to change just because you "mother" him or try to "change" him. Women make this mistake all the time! If he is a drug addict, he needs to seek help by HIMSELF and before he is in a relationship. Woman vastly overestimate their power over men when it comes to fixing their shortcomings. This has to do with trust and optimism, something most women have more of than men.

Last but not least, nice girls shouldn't be afraid to give the nice guys a chance. If you consistently end up with bad boys, you need to ask yourself, the girl, where are you meeting these people? Do I actually like bad boys? If so, what do I need to change personally to ensure I'm attracting the right type of attention? Start by examining yourself, keep your standards high and don't be afraid to flirt with that nice guy, he might just return the favor. ;-)

Everyone can blame each other really...

But honestly, the smarter and wiser you are can help you determine who is worth going after. Or who is worth spending your time with. Surround yourself with knowledge of dating. Remember that many men do like to take advantage of nice woman and that there are players out there.

I'll give you a bit of advice on the subject. Never have sex on a first date, or too soon. Try to find a guy who is anxious to find out more about you. Someone who is willing to make you a priority and not a deadline. Good luck.