Can a 22 year old women date a 41 year old man?

20 years difference is a bit much. That's getting to daddy issues territory. With that big of a difference I would have to say its prob. And ego trip for him. About the phone thing. Maybe he's married. Either way. I'm curious why you would want to date someone that old.

He's lying about the phone (pretty common). And he's already made it clear -- he doesn't want a "SERIOUS relationship" -- which means he just wants sex, not a girlfriend (he's actually pretty much spelling it all out for you, if you think about it). If he's 41, ask him if he has a son you could date.

We can't know if he's lying about his phone. He just wants to remain friends. I agree with him, the age difference is too great. He's old enough to be your father.

Consider finding someone your own age. Look hard enough, and you'll discover someone just as mature as your teacher friend, but much younger.

It definitely sounds like he is hiding some things in his life, here. The age thing could work out, but there's too much "mystery" in this relationship to continue it. I would just forget him, and move on!

You can honestly do whatever you want but just remember 1 thing, how am I looked at by society?

First of all is he single? Does he have family? Maybe he's a little intimidated dating such a young girl. I mean maybe he does like you but the age difference is quite dramatic and I personally if I was him would be scared of what my students would think and family would think too. Maybe he likes you but then again maybe he might be using you for sex. So be careful girl. You're only 22, there's so many other guys out there around your age that would definitely want to be with you.

Oh that sounds very very shady! The phone issues seem like he doesn't want you to call because he doesn't want his wife or someone to answer the phone, see who's calling, or both. As the others have said, I'd play it really safe and slow, differently be careful, and see what happens. The age difference is not a big deal really. Age is a number, that's all. Some family friends were 20 years apart in age, and I have a cousin married to a man who's older than my father and her parents.

I would relay be where of the "phone issues" that sounds fairly fish to me coupled with the not wanting some thing serious. So I am inclined to think that is is in one and just wants some thing on the side even more so from a nice young woman. Tread care fully my friend.

He wants to be friends and is hiding the fact that he has a house phone and more than likely a cell phone. So, are they both not working? I would stay away from this guy. Eventually you will have sex and end up getting hurt.

Well he is 19 years older than you. It might take some time for him to get used to dating a younger woman. About the phone issues. I don't know what that is. Like he said, just wait and see where things go. Try and be patient, it may take some adjustments to make it work for the both of you.

also, he's a guy. Who knows if he wants you for your mind or your body? Just because he's older doesn't make him less capable of using you, so still try to be careful.

He sounds shady. What the hell is phone issues, I never heard of anything like that before. Maybe he's seeing someone else. Who knows,but I'm 22 and I get attracted to older men. I think as long as they don't look like that are much older than you. Than it will workout. But this guy doesn't sound like he wants to be with you. Maybe it is just sex. I would find out, unless you are okay that he doesn't want a serious relationship with you. I would talk to him about it, tell him to be honest.