How to Flirt with Messages and Texting? The Art of Texting

In today's society, texting is, in my opinion, the greatest modern flirting tool out there. It is so ridiculously easy, guys, to get a girl hooked on you simply by following a few texting rules.

Now ladies, I do not know if you have some secret you use, but follow along, and see if you have ever fell victim to this sort of trick (I am betting you have).

So let's say a guy is at a party, meets a girl he is interested in, and gets her number. This is where many guys blow it. Many guys, once they get a girl's number, will bombard said girl with a horde of text messages/ calls, and the girl will get very fed up very quickly. So I am going to suggest a simple strategy, that works around 90% of the time.

The Strategy

The number one rule of texting is: DO NOT text her back right away. Leave her hanging for 20 minutes. She will be sitting there trying to figure out why you are so preoccupied with your time that you can't manage to text her back. Works like a charm.

When a guy gets a girl's number, he should wait 2-3 days before initiating a conversation with her. Why? It makes the girl think you have forgotten about her, and that you are not interested in her. This is precisely the thought process that gives guys the upper hand.

So let's say 2 days after getting the number, the guy initiates a conversation via text message. The girl will be surprised/ excited that the guy has finally contacted her. This will lead to a healthy conversation and a mutual good feeling.

The next day, day 3, the guy also needs to initiate contact via text message. This will show the girl that the guy is taking a deeper interest in her, rather than briefly talking for one day and never talking again. This will also lead to a good conversation that day.

Day 4. This is the "moment of truth" so to speak. The guy MUST NOT make any contact with the girl on this day. Why? This is a test to see if the girl is interested in him. What many guys do not understand, is that by you not contacted her, you are playing hard to get. Girls like 2 things: a challenge, and when someone takes an interest in them. So when you do not text her on day 4, she will, by her human nature, want to investigate. **Please note that some girls I have tested this on were also pretty good at playing hard to get. You may have to wait a few days, but in the end, she WILL initiate a conversation with you.**

Day 5, 6, 7. On these days, the guy should not initiate the conversation. Make the girl do all the work. Make her prove herself to you. Believe me, if she is interested in you she will. She will initiate the texting conversation these days, and not even notice she is doing it.

Day 8. On this day, the girl will realize that you are not interested in her. You no longer initiate conversations, as she has been doing all the work the past few days, so she will decide to go on strike and not text you first. What do you do on this day guys? Initiate the conversation. She will literally be all smiles as her previous thoughts were proven incorrect.

With just a week or two of texting, you can win over any girl you want. If you do not believe me, pick a girl of interest and try it out on her. What do you have to lose? And if any girl wants to challenge me, I say look at your past relationships, and see how many times you were left sitting there wondering what your boyfriend, or guy, was doing that was so important that he couldn't answer your text?

With texting being a widely accepted means of communication in today's society, someone needed to master the art of it!

What Girls Said 7

  • If he's not my type friends or otherwise I tell him I don't think things will work out and cut all communication. If I'm not sure, or even if I think I am the next few dates are tests, for example... can I drag him out hiking (does he like nature/ isn't afraid to get messy/is relatively in shape/can keep up with me?) And done. Works like a charm and I don't prance about for a week.

  • Haha, this article amused me. I really can't stand guys who play games-- I have little enough time as it is I don't need to fritter it away with nonsense. So what do I do? I get the guy's number, text him my name and wait until he gets that before we leave so I KNOW he doesn't have that excuse then I text the next day and we find a time to meet for coffee/ tea near a busy area with public transport so I can make the slip if he's weird. If we click, ace -- if he's friend material I say so.

  • Wow, this has worked on me without me even realizing it. Thanks for making me see the light

  • Wow I think this worked although I had the guys number in my phone as another name. I had that number in my phone for years too.

  • This is pretty good I must admit. BUT there's a loophole. The hard-to-get game always works - unless the girl is in on it too. If she's doing the same thing, then the relationship will obviously get no where since both of you are too immature to initiate conversation. This works on most girls but for the ones worth getting, just have the decency to show your true interest.

    • Yeah I also agree, you should play it cool, play it cool as they say.

      But if both people are deliberately playing games, or call my bluff, then no one is going to text anyone ever.

      And I'd rather have a girl initiate with me, then play hard to get tbh. I don't understand that. Sure it's nice to chase, but it's two ways, if a girl isn't showing me some interest, then even if she's smokin hot in looks, she appears to be terrible on a personal level, and who wants that? Their attraction rating drops a lot.

      Whereas a fun girl who initiates and responds, is refreshing, partly cos so many are following the same rules that so many guys are following too now where they text minimistically right?

      Just text her!! Don't text her 10 times in a row, but just text her. And girls... if you like him, text him. Otherwise if he's nervous (which he would be if he likes you, even a confident guy will be nervous with someone he likes), it'll end there.

  • LOL...I do this all the time to guys - things can get complicated if both parties know the tricks, but in those cases we're generally blunt enough to just ask one another out anyway xP

    Interesting article!

  • WOW just wow it does work I've been there and beleive I was completly dumbfounded what was hapening untill reading this article


What Guys Said 7

  • This seems juvenile to me.

  • I realized that girls are not interested in me... they always not the one texting me first, very frustrating

  • you burning the game!

  • @ lesley,

    I have actually recently run in to a girl who was playing hard to get. I am not sure if she knew what she was doing but it was working on me quite well. All I had to do was to adapt, to get her a little interested in me and get her to let her defenses down, then I simply resorted back to the plan I have described above, except slightly modified

  • Blowing your chances, however the majority of people get turned on talking about sex. Just find a topic you are comfortable talking about and just go with it.

  • Hello,

    It definitely works with people you already know. I do it all the time. All you have to think is "how can I make her/ him really want to talk to me?" The answer is simply drag out not talking to them. They want to know what you are up to if they are interested in you.

    What should you talk about? Anything really. Avoid questions that they can answer with a yes or no. You want to keep the convo flowing.

    There are no topics to avoid. Some people think that if you talk about sex you are..

  • This is great! How well do you think it would work on people who you already know, but aren't close with? Would any steps need to be altered?

    And what should you talk about while texting? Just general things, or dropping subtle hints all over the place? Any topics to avoid?