I had really good luck with OkC a couple years ago (met my last bf there) and went on quite a few good dates. I decided to try it again a few weeks ago & I've literally gotten NO messages. I haven't changed my profile significantly from the last time (it has 3-4 decent pics, my hobbies, likes/dislikes, etc). I put I'm looking for "long term dating" & that I'm looking for a relationship.
I got tired of not hearing from anyone and just to experiment, I changed my "looking for" to casual sex & within 15 min I got 15 (sleazy) messages. Once I changed it back to long term dating I've gotten no messages again. Am I missing something here? Has OkC become a site for hookups nowadays?
Here's my profile pic by the way:
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Here's what I think happened:
I tried that site with some success several years ago. This was back in 2009.
Over the next few years, online dating became more popular in the mainstream.
This led to a massive increase in the number of guys messaging girls.
This, in turn, led to many women raising their standards accordingly.
As a result, men who were average and below, or even slightly above average, tended to give up on online dating.
Only the very highly desirable men remained, and these are the men who can afford to have many casual hookups.
(Just my opinion)1