It's so embarrassing.. I'm 20 and I can't swim. I'm afraid of water. Yesterday I was on a date with a guy who loves swimming all over the world. I'm afraid he will arrange something in the water. I'm also afraid he will never see me again if I tell him, but I think he should know.. It's so so embarrassing.
Most Helpful Guy
Trust me, you are not alone. I have trained with a few Marines and Sailors that has shown fear of water, thought of drowning, or certain marine life causing that might inflict pain or death (whether it be a pool or open waters); however, their fear only extends to a point when their feet can no longer touch the bottom or ankle deep. Question is, to what extent do you belong? So you don't know how to swim. No big deal. I just hope your fear of water does not extend to fear of bathing (to clean yourself).
One thing is for certain though, any phobia an individual may have MUST be known to the other party to prevent what may lead to trauma. Having them know may help them assist you in overcoming that fear. Have this guy teach you basic fundamentals. Your body is buoyant as long as your lungs have air; once you don't have any, you will start to sink slowly (if you don't use other methods to sink faster). More and likely, this guy will probably enjoy teaching you, especially when he will get to spend an entire day with you and able to hold you or if you grab him for dear life. Just get him to teach you where you can touch the ground and at least where the water is just up to your breast to give you that safety net.1
Most Helpful Girl
No Big Deal and Don't be afraid of being this Fifth Wheel Because... I'm 20 and can't swim.
If you Both do happen to go for the waters, Level with him on your own 'Level' of Swimming. Explain you are Not even the Best doggie paddler here, dear, and perhaps with your sad, puppy dog eyes, he will give you a Surprise: "Let me show you the way of the waves, babe."
Good luck and Nothing to lay down in the corner over with Rover. xx0