I'm usually not a pot smoker. But i been so stressed out lately with work and life itself, I just needed something that would relax my body. ( I've already tried yoga or exercise- won't keep my mind at ease either ). But today he came to the house early and caught me. He won't even speak to me. I don't know what to do. 😢
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Text him that you would like to talk in person tell him that you understand that he's currently upset even though you don't necessarily understand why. Make sure to tell him that you will not discuss the issue on the phone nor threw text only face to face and to text you back when he is ready to talk. Now let me break down why you are sending him that message.
First you are identifying that yes he dose have an issue even if you don't understand what it may be.
Secondly you are telling him that you don't want to discuss it via phone nor text and instead face to face. This allows you to avoid stretching out the issue and deal with it all in one shot, the back and forth that can be annoying to handle with texting is also avoided, you also avoid him getting mad and hanging up for whatever reason then you have to call him back just for him to be annoying and not answer then after an hour him finally call you back and it happen all over again, you also can express your emotions more effectively threw face to face communication as well as avoid any misunderstanding that comes with phone calls or texting.
Third and final reason is that by telling him to text you back when he is ready to talk he will have his time to process and cool down which he so clearly needs, you can try to calm down a bit and not worry as much, also he can begin to rationalize rather than be so irrational, plus you give him the opportunity to come to you not for you to chase him which is an important choice he needs to make for himself.
Now things I should cover for you if he tries to argue tell him that you will not discuss it on the phone if he wants to talk to come over keep enforcing that and don't be lead in to phone confrontation because that won't help either of you come to terms with the issue.
As for my opinion i think he's freaking out a bit to much and he needs to calm down and realize that your simply trying to relax your stress. Just remember that when you do talk state your feelings and what's been going on, your opinion on weed, and state why you needed to smoke a bit. Do not apologize if you feel you did nothing wrong but do ask to hear his side and what he feels and try and listen to his concerns and address them as best you can. The key is to alow open communication it's difficult but if you follow what I told you everything should be fine.1
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