Basically we were sat at a table and my sister lent over and her boobs were fully out and my boyfriend noticed them and looked. I saw too so didn't mind the first time but then I saw him look again in the corner of his eye and that is what has upset me. She has much bigger boobs than me and it has made me feel worthless as she is my sister also. I can't help but think why did he look twice? Did he like the look of them and so look again? :( I asked him and he told me he did notice them as they were obvious but he wasn't checking her out. But I still feel hurt :(
It really is a natural reaction for a guy, sometimes honestly we can't control it, it's like driving by a car crash and not looking. For your feelings, realize that it's just that, looking, it means NOTHING at all other than that. If you seen a hot guy (totally your type in every way) walking down the street without a shirt, might you take a quick look or two just admiring. But it means nothing, same here. That may not be the best example but what I'm saying is you're taking it too personally. Now if he starts staring at her randomly now without any reason (ie she hasn't had her boobs in his face lol) then maybe you have something to be upset about, but this case specifically, don't think about it. Move on. It was just in that moment and it's over. Again, it honestly very hard for us guys to control sometimes, we do it and don't even realize it sometimes seriously. I've caught myself looking at strangers before and I've thought to myself wtf? Why am I looking? Uncontrollable. Just a natural reaction.
I believe that you do not have much to worry about. Up to now, for you never said, he has never given you any Proof in his own sweet Pudding that He Looks and lurks Other girls, much less Boobs to Boot. I am sure that with 'My sister lent over and her boobs were fully out,' He probably was Both Shocked and Surprised to his Wondering, Not Wandering, Eyes, that She had the Nerve to wear Something So... Revealing. I am sure he did 'Look twice,' and with them Coming out of their Package, How can Anyone Not help but take a Second Glance by Chance? He was quite off guard, and with you Approaching him on this Sister Sore Subject, he tried to "Lie' his way out of it because he couldn't Explain it. His Tongue was in a Twist. He loves you. Up to this point in time, has there ever been a 'Time" where Sis has Ever been on his Mind? Good luck. xx
Guys like boobs. And the bigger boobs are, the more noticeable they are. I myself prefer smaller boobs, but when big ones are prominently in view, I will look at them. In the situation you described, where hers are larger, and yours are small, I probably would have looked just as much as he did. But I will tell you very firmly, that from your description I prefer yours a LOT more than hers. It is simply that hers were "out there"!
My wife used to say that if I ever stopped looking at other women, it would mean that I was too old and decrepit for her. She expected me to notice and look. But she also very clearly expected that I would look, but never touch. And though almost 40 years of marriage till she died, I did look and never touched.
You only feel hurt coz you got an inferiority complex and thats your problem not his. All men notice things like that. can't help it. Might as well ask water not to be wet. Its not a choice its instinct. If he had a brother and he walked past with a big massive bulge for talking sake you wouldn't even glance? Bet youd look more than once. Nature. No point bullshitting me i know women are just as bad as men that way. I've been with enough to know. you're just more prudish about it coz you worry what people will think if your too obvious. You can't treat your partner like a pet whos broke their training. People are people, learn to laugh it off instead of getting wound up
He loves you. Don't worry. And I'm a guy so I totally understand lol! Us guys have a wiring for them. We will always double look, probably even if it's our grandma XDDD Don't worry about it. If he makes a move on her or you notice strange behavior from him while around your sis, talk to him
Maybe he was checking her out, maybe he wasn't. But it doesn't really matter, and here's why: There will always be people who he finds attractive. There will always be girls that he thinks are hotter than you and that he will check out. But your worth isn't based on your appearance, you are SO much more than that. Your appearance is a bonus, but that isn't why he loves/ is interested in you. Just like its not the reason why you love/ are interested in him.
Men are going to look as long as they don't say or do anything about it I have no problems I mean my dad used to do that when he as with my mom but he obviously liked her much better. My boyfriend doesn't really care for appearances but if you are confident in him, your relationship, and you trust him it should be fine ! That's the best advice I can give ya 🙂