I went to my favorite spot on a date the other night and a bunch of my friends saw us. The next morning I met one of them during our usual brunch and he asked how my date went. I shrugged. He volunteers that he didn't think that this guy was "a good fit" for me -- that we didn't look right together. He says "a girl like you should be with someone who's classy like you." I gave him a wry look. To me classy is an illusion; the guys I used to think of as classy just wanted to date the hot little numbers just like any other guy. My friend chuckled and walked away when I told him this, so I'm left wondering what "classy" really means.
So I a few questions now:
(1) What would you say are the qualities or traits of a "classy" guy/girl?
(2) Would you say that classy people are easy to meet?
(3) Where would you meet such a person if you're not independently wealthy?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't think classy is all about money. Plenty of super rich people have absolutely no class. Think everyone on Jersey Shore, or reality TV generally for that matter. Being classy is about holding yourself to a very high behavioral standard and raising the standard of everyone around you. I think it's also about being worldly, curious, well read and well traveled (or at least wanting to be), and cosmopolitan. There's also a stylistic element, which isn't the most important part but tends to go with it.
When your friend says you're classy and should be with someone similar, it's more a statement about sharing values in common than anything else.4