Because I'm single right now, I really want a girlfriend, but people always give advice by saying phrases like this " don't go looking for a girlfriend, let her find you, don't go looking for love, love will find you". I don't see how that can be true, because a girl will never ask a guy out, a girl will never pursue or chase a guy, it's always us guys to take the initiative and do the pursuing and chasing, asking the girl out. So why do people always say those phrases that I mentioned?
I think this was you I answered before.. But look man. The only time you have to pursue or chase a girl is when you're at a bar, a party, or some event where you don't know anyone. Half the times you don't want a girl you randomly met at a party or the bar..
Now "don't look for love, let it find you" What that means is, don't go out in mind in hopes to find someone today.. Or don't go to a party in hopes to find a gf.. Let things just happen. Go out and meet a ton of new people.. Network, meet friends of friends.. eventually you will run into someone you click with just as much as they feel they click with you. When you meet someone naturally "unforced" you tend to get better results and it will probably actually work..
Looking for love example: Going to a party tonight, arriving there, and trying to get as many phone numbers as you can...
Letting love find you example: Going out with friends camping, or doing something fun... A friend of yours invites a friend who invites their friends.. You get there not expecting anything and you see the most beautiful girl walking around, maybe even two of them. You guys get to talking find out you have things in common exchange numbers.. Bingo.. That's love finding you, and that's love finding her.. The expression works for both people.. She wasn't looking and neither were you. You both just "found" each other.
well number 1, of course girls chase after guys. I know I spent around at least 3 months pursuing my now finance. (he needed a little push to see what I saw from the beginning) lol. I think its true though that love will find you, you can't force yourself to love someone any more than you can force someone to love you. it just doesn't work that way. but as for finding a girlfriend you can't just sit back and not do anything. you should be dating and meeting new people until you find someone that you click with and want to be in a relationship with. have fun and live life because you only get one =) don't take things so seriously, I'm quite positive that you are a great guy and any girl would be lucky to have someone like you.
I wish you the best of luck though I'm sure you don't need it. things will work out, just have faith =)
I think that definitely comes with it, pursuing, but only at the right time.
I take both literally and metaphorically. Kind of like, 'Hey, just hold it out for now, wait. you can do it, and he IS out there' but also like 'Don't go pursuing pointless relationships, let him come to you'. Something similar to the quote is a personal favourite: 'Why do people look for the right person? Instead of looking for the right person, prepare yourself now to BE the right person, for the sake of your future husband/wife.'
well I think its true...it really does come when you least expect it...and that's because when you're not looking...you're doing the things you love to do,working, hobbies, and you're enjoying yourself and not so worried (consciouly and subconsciously). about having a girlfriend or bf...so women/men tend to be attracted to people who are happy with themselves...and you may not know it...but you might be look a little unhappy or unapproachable because of the way you feel...but yea...when you're doing something and not worried or thinking about who date and what not...some girl might find you attractive..doing your thing and you guys might hit it off.well I'm not sure...its just a thought...i hope it wasn't confusing haha :P
In my experience, and I know this is a rare one, but that advice actually held true. The girl of my dreams, which I didn't know she was at the time, randomly asked me to her prom, and after that I just totally fell her for, and her for me, and now we're together! It was like my dream come true, haha