Because I'm single right now, I really want a girlfriend, but people always give advice by saying phrases like this " don't go looking for a girlfriend, let her find you, don't go looking for love, love will find you". I don't see how that can be true, because a girl will never ask a guy out, a girl will never pursue or chase a guy, it's always us guys to take the initiative and do the pursuing and chasing, asking the girl out. So why do people always say those phrases that I mentioned?
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I think this was you I answered before.. But look man. The only time you have to pursue or chase a girl is when you're at a bar, a party, or some event where you don't know anyone. Half the times you don't want a girl you randomly met at a party or the bar..
Now "don't look for love, let it find you" What that means is, don't go out in mind in hopes to find someone today.. Or don't go to a party in hopes to find a gf.. Let things just happen. Go out and meet a ton of new people.. Network, meet friends of friends.. eventually you will run into someone you click with just as much as they feel they click with you. When you meet someone naturally "unforced" you tend to get better results and it will probably actually work..
Looking for love example: Going to a party tonight, arriving there, and trying to get as many phone numbers as you can...
Letting love find you example: Going out with friends camping, or doing something fun... A friend of yours invites a friend who invites their friends.. You get there not expecting anything and you see the most beautiful girl walking around, maybe even two of them. You guys get to talking find out you have things in common exchange numbers.. Bingo.. That's love finding you, and that's love finding her.. The expression works for both people.. She wasn't looking and neither were you. You both just "found" each other.
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