Average men are the new handsome men and handsome are the new ugly guys?

The reason why I put question because I realize most girls more go for average guys rather than handsome guys. Average men get more laid than good looking guys I'm serious I saw many times. I hear women thought handsome guys are the cheat, scum, bastard get laid that bs it kind ticked me off because that not true I know some men are very nice and respectful men. They suprised I never have girlfriend because they thought I get more women I was like wtf? why they think?

Updates:
I forgot to mention it some girls thought I'm player but I'm not how I prove them I'm not player?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Honestly it's because the majority of people are average.

    There aren't very many Meagan Foxes or Johnny Depps just casually walking around town lol

    Even Meagan Fox and Johnny Depp probably don't look as amazing as the media makes them -

    There are some pretty good looking people out there, but they're usually far and in between. Or aren't as hot as one may think once the make up and expensive looking clothes come off -

    The real point is - beauty simply varies. What one person considers hot, another may not - so that's why you get this phenomenon of everyone falling into the average category.

    Once we come to terms with how attractive we really are, most people stick within their range or maybe a little lower because it's assumed an extremely attractive person, would be seeking another extremely attractive mate anyway.

    Actually - there was this experiment done with a group of randomely selected people. They were rated based on looks and given a number 1 - 10. They were told to pair up with the person they thought was attractive in the room. At the end of the test, everyone had paired up with someone that was their same number like a 7 and a 7 or realitive to it - a 4 and a 5. Completely on their own.

    So yea, I think people just naturally go for what they feel they can get - which makes sense, as it drastically improves one's chances at pairing up and ultimately breeding - which I mean, we are all just sex machines right? :P

    Also, people in a higher range of attractiveness are usually overlooked because the other people automatically assume there's no way and hell this person would even consider being with them. And why wouldn't they? As an extremely attractive person, you now get to pick from a pool of other really good looking people - why settle for an average person when you can have a model or something?

    I honestly can say I've had more guys approach me on days when I'm like party put together, hair in a bun, averaging like a 4 - 5 - then on days when I dress nicer and am pushing like a 7.5. Also, less guys would conversate with me on those days; it's like when I was a 5, there was a million things to talk about, guys were engaged, and then when I'm lookin really good they just sorta smile and sit back lol

    So yea - that's my view on it...

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    • Well said, a girl with brains

    • "... And why wouldn't they? As an extremely attractive person, you now get to pick from a pool of other really good looking people..."

      ^ I feel this view is the problem because while I thoroughly agree with your observations, remember, "There aren't very many Meagan Foxes or Johnny Depps just casually walking around town lol". So the reality is - and I'm just capitalizing for emphasis; not yelling at you - THERE IS NO POOL for extremely attractive persons.

      Many attractive people didn't ask to be, and would like relationships, or at bare minimum a rewarding conversation with persons they're around who they fancy, but can't because of this view. It's lonely.

What Girls Said 11

  • well for me it just depends on the person I like average and handsome but it also counts on how the guy would treat me and respect me and there are a lot of very nice and respectful guys in the world and those who just care about sex and stuff but I guess it all just depends on the person

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    • i saw your pics you are cute you can be model lol

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    • Lol yea hey I got to go now ttyl you can add me on friend list here or on Facebook I have it in my profile if you want

  • You're a deaf guy who can't convince girls he's not a player just because, apparently, he's too handsome. Your life is really interesting.

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    • Yea it true story which weird to me but that what they said to me. You have no idea my life is very more interesting lol

  • I feel like a lot of people believe that they can't get with beautiful people, so they shoot for the average person. I think that this transcends between both males and females. I know a lot of beautiful women who get ignored because men are afraid of them. Women don't trust attractive men. and vice versa.

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  • I would much rather prefer to go out with an "average" looking guy then a drop dead gorgeous one for several reasons, many I'm not sure how I've adopted. Perhaps it is because I feel less people will be watching us, or maybe because I feel that I will become more attached with their looks than their personality and actions. I cannot say that other girls (or guys) are more attracted to "average" looking people than "handsome", it is probably just how the dice fall.

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  • I guess some feel this way. I don't, it doesn't actually make any sense at all. But I usually like the average guy look more than the "Wow, he's hot" look

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    • Interesting you don't think handsome are not hot?

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    • Probably but I would still try and convince him first.

  • What I think is attractive isn't the same as what some one else thinks is attractive so when you say women go for average guys rather than attractive guys it's not totally true. The guys that you say are "average" might be super duper gorgeous to me. My point it, not everyone has the same taste so what you said is invalid because people have different standards. Not everyone's version of beautiful is the same.

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  • Well, I don't know about all situations- but recently I find myself highly attracted to Doudi Strajmayster. And, I know he isn't gorgeous.

    But the reason I think a lot of women go for average is because most people in the world are average- hence the term average. And let's face it, the better looking a guy is the more suspicious women will be that he'll cheat.

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    • I hear many times but why judge them quickly before get know to them well?

    • I think it's the way a lot of women work. And! I can totally understand them being fearful of a gorgeous guy, because lets face it- women are insecure and think the man will go for whoever he wants!

      Sorry dude!

  • I don't like the A+ on looks because it makes me feel bad about myself, same with the abs, abs make me feel like I'm a fatass. xD

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    • If he love you no matter what you look like you would go for it?

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    • awweh thankkkks : ) message me?

    • u welcome sure

  • Well I always go for attractive dudes, I've never heard of this interchange applying to guys.

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  • well I think you are average so you have nothing to worry about

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    • I hope you are right but I don't know if women go for deaf guys? because I'm deaf it hard to find any women don't mind dating deaf guys

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    • Really? I'm glad you open minded because some girls refuse to date deaf guy.

    • being deaf is something I can work with

  • who told you that? O.o

    either way that's not how I view things, regardless of whether or not more women out there see it that way.

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What Guys Said 8

  • The next time a girl asks you if you are a player understand that which ever way you answer yes or no, that either yes or no is the wrong answer, saying no makes you sound guilty but saying yes makes you sound boastful and arrogant or whatever, the best way to answer this question is to not answer it at all, while answering it at the same time and then switching the conversation and leading the conversation, don't let girls ask you these questions, because they are what I like to call TRAPS, a way of testing your response, reaction and nonverbal communication, then assessing what kind of person you are, and women do this subconsciously.

    Girl: Are you a player?

    -Why yes, I love sports, how about you?

    -Why? Are you attracted to those type of guys?

    -Why? Are YOU a player?

    -Can't help being one when so many girls are just attracted to me

    -Yes, and I'm currently in practice mode, can I borrow your heart?

    How many women have you slept with?

    -1,000,867,567 and counting

    -Alot, but I usually sleep on the ground and let them have my bed for the night, I'm a hospitable host

    The trick is to be funny and not treat it like a question at all, then when you get her laughing divert the conversation to something else

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  • yes that is true...funny how girls call guys jerks because we apprarently only see what is "outside" and not what is "inside" yet they do the same thing!

    I think these are the main reasons:

    First girls will only go for good looking guys for the thrill of the moment, nothing about relationships and what not. Maybe for a one night stand but that is it. With the whole sex is taboo thing that women cannot have one night stands, this lowers the possibilities for good looking fellas.

    Second of all they don't like dating guys because just like many men do with attractive women thinking they are conceited, women think good lookign guys are players, jerks, unavailable etc etc.

    Third of all women almost never go with a guy more attractive than them, it is always the opposite, almost always you will see a good looking girl with an average guy not so much becayse the guy chose her, but also because she chose him because she felt safer with him you know? If he was better looking than her, she will be afraid that he would change her, for a more attractive girl.

    Fourth the fact that he is good looking or she perceives that he is better looking makes her more nervous around him, therefore she would likely play more games, tests and etc on him than on an average guy because of what I said on reason 2.

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  • A peson can be good looking but not sexually arousing. Sexual vibe is what makes a human wanting to mate with another human, not just looks. a guy that is good looking and sexually arousing can't get girls off of him. You have it all wrong buddy(: oh and a charm. Not all good looking people have 'charm'.

    Ugly guy that has charm and sexual vibe will get more girls then a 'good looking guy'.

    There has to be a spark, with out it nothing will work.

    If a girl knows a certain guy that is a player, it doesn't mean that she will reject him for it. She would still give him a chance and get played and you know what? She won't even regret it :)

    Humans think with logic, but don't act with logic.

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    • Oh, just to add that is the same reason why a human being can't describe an exact person that she/he will find attractive.

  • Subjectively, handsome will always be attractive and average will always be normal when physical looks are concerned; but, when dealing with the intricacies of a relationship, the female counter part will most probably account for long-term standing and problems that may occur in the relationship. Women have tendencies to analyze relationships before, during, and after the course of a relationship as well as future and past situations.

    Some examples of problems that may occur are:

    1) The handsome man might be conceited because his looks might play a big role in his life and who he is as a person which could make a woman upset that she receives less attention than said man.

    2) The handsome man has higher chance of infidelity than the average man because he is physically more attractive and has 'better' genes; but to be fair, all men have a provability of cheating.

    3) Arrogance might easily develop in handsome man which many woman find unattractive; arrogance is thought as an unattractive quality because people feel invaluable and/or even though all people are ignorant they feel superior and knowledgeable when really they are ignorant just like everybody else.

    4) Average man might have other skills to compensate for lack of attractiveness but many can easily withdraw and develop no skills or talents,

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  • because most chicks would feel embarassed and out of their league talking to a handsome man, while when they talk to an average, the know for sure that he won't dump them...

    simple, that's why most guys never even talk to a hard 10 chick, they just think "why care? I will fail anyway"...

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  • Average men do not get laid more then good looking guys. Same with hot or handsome men. That is because of the reasons you stated. Everything is balanced so that one guy has no advantage over another.

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  • i hate how women prefer confidence, status, having goals and a passion, being successful in life over a good-looking guy

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  • i'd had a few girls ask me if I'm a player before even getting to know me (wtf)...and being surprised when I say I'm single and don't date much...ive been told I'm a bit intimidating and look like I'm unavailable... good looks will get you attention but won't mean anything unless you make things happen

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