Answering The Question To "Is He/She Interested In Me" Or Does He/She Like Me?

[Junlian]

Hello fellow GAGers, name is Julian and I am fairly new to this myTake.

Little bit of disclaimer: I am expressing my opinion about a topic I feel that needs addressing and I am not good with sugar coating anything. If you are moody, sensitive, or just don't like my opinion then, hey...There are other myTakes that might peak your interest. With that said continue to read what knowledge I have to offer.

The two big Question that's some of many that's been asked frequently on this site are;

1. Do you think he/she likes me? How can you tell?
2. How can you tell if a guy/ girl are interested in me? What are the signs?

Short Answer: none of this matters if you are not going to pursue him/her anyway.

Long Answer:

Want more huh? Well... I wasn't expecting that.

To like or be interested in someone or you, namely, the person has to care and shows it little more than often. Not when he/she like it.

" I can't sit up here and say that the answer applies for everyone. Because everyone is different, but pulling in factors can indicate a helping hand. This DOES NOT AND I REPEAT DOES NOT GO FOR EVERYBODY so put away your pitch forks and let us continue.

The factors are as follows.

INTEREST

How often does he/ she show interest in you? If it's everyday then accept it as being friendly. Not - she want you or he wants to hook up. But if it's a greeting, exchange of words and a farewell then, no. They are just simply either shy, polite or just want to pass the time by. In this case the next time they see you, let them start the convo. If nothing progresses after two days then direct your energy elsewhere.

ACTION! NO SIGNS

Far too much we read into how she sits next to the guy at a given place and she got other places to sit or the guy holds his gaze with a woman and smile. Or both meeting at a friends party and all is golden. SIGNS ARE PREMEDITATED, actions just happen. Look for trust, goes he or she dances with you at the party, look in there eyes, does she care about what you are talking about?

INTENT

Yes! Get to know their intent in two to one day span. Guys' fears are being cheated on, used for money or for sex. Girls' fears are insecurity, used for sex or being cheated on. That sh*t hurts like hel!! But if you get to know their intention then you'll know where to go from here.

UNDERSTANDING AND COMMUNICATION

This is long word, I lost 80lbs. Subway ain't got nothin on meh. Alright this is very important. Cause early in a relationship or even friendship this can make life 100% easier. Not much to explain besides quit being chicken and be prepared for 50/50 rejection but least your on the same page.

If your interested or like him/her, let it be known! Let your intent show, communicate directly what you want and make sure he/she understands, with his/her actions you'll know if she's interested or likes you. This cuts the bull, this cuts the games and this cuts the confusion.

Well thanks for reading folks. Hope this helps. I'll look into it later on how to make a better myTake. Until then..........

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Makes so much sense and I don't find it harsh at all but I don't think it will make much difference, there will still be 50 questions a day about crushes. I am not exactly sure what it is but it seems to be an innate aspect of human nature. We become/ don't become friends all the time easy as pie, you would think same principle roughly applies with crushes, not on your nelly it becomes a thousand times more complicated.
You would think that the worst that happens is that if he/she turns you down, you will be transported to Hell for all eternity. In reality what actually happens is they say "No" and 99% will be decent enough about it to be polite about it. Okay it sucks but now you have a decision, you can take a bit of time to get over it, chances are there will someone you like on the horizon within a month or two, life doesn't end because a crush says "No" so ask them to find out what the situation is.

[Junlian]

I agree with your statement. two factors breed into what don't exist social life and there very life. I say this cause all life have it's different experience.

[Junlian]

And each differences come opportunity and choices which plays a role in there social life style. Maybe there way of going about it ( life) is going up to him/ her and get their attention ( opportunity) but they was taught by there parents to be respectful ( choice) but they read that being humorous get the ball rolling ( social media).

[Junlian]

It's complicated cause make rules and regulations that don't exist. Our ability love and grow and learn is already planted in us but we run after the things that's not good ( sometimes, mostly teen years.)

[asomeone]

I also think that users, especially of a certain age on this site don't quite understand yet the difference between being "interested" and being "in love." If you haven't figured that out yet, you'll learn.

[Nicky2580]

Who are you? I started reading other posts but your comments where the thing that pushed me over the edge !!! Well played Julian... well played...

[Anonymous]

I keep getting mixed signals though... hot and cold treatment. I give up XD

[Junlian]

Hot and cold are games immature people play to add mystery and attraction to the whole social aspect. Don't fall for it. The day he/she act cold is the day I'm gonna take it as rejection. So I'll give up. If he/she wants get my attention and flirt. I'll be up front and tell him/her. Like me or not? If you say it ruined the whole thing that means your all for games or you never liked me in the first place. Soon hot and cold is really a game that don't exist.