Guys: I've heard a lot about "verbal flirting", but what EXACTLY does that mean?

[CrazyCherryBlossom]

I've been told by people that girls use physical flirtation but guys use verbal. I've been told girls should try the verbal communication path, but what exactly IS verbal?

Like, examples on what she would say that would be flirty, but not a normal every day line?

NOT looking for female pick up lines, by the way. -_-

[Anonymous]

I think a great example of the double entendre being used in a classy way, is with Lauren Bacall and Humphrey Bogart in the Big Sleep :

Bacall: "...speaking of horses, I like to play them myself. But I like to see them work out a little first. See if they're front-runners or come from behind."

She's not really talking about the horses. That much is obvious.

Bacall: "I'd say you don't like to be rated. You like to get out in front, open up a lead, take a little breather in the back stretch, and then come home free..."

She's telling him that she thinks he's a guy who doesn't like to be tied down, gets in front of the relationship, is all passion, then eases off, and comes home single and unencumbered.

He is, in fact, a player.

Bogart: "You don't like to be rated yourself"

Bacall: "I haven't met anyone yet who could do it."

They're move away from the horse metaphor now, and rated in this context could mean anything from marriage/settling down, to having an orgasm

Bogart: "Well I can't tell till I've seen you over a distance of ground."

Bogart: "You've got a touch of class, but I don't know how far you can go."

Note that Bogart has abandoned all pretense that they're talking about horses. He's now assessing her. He compliments her (slightly) but not fawning adulation. He's basically challenging her. Saying she looks good alright, but he's not entirely sure he'd bother trying to f*** her. She might be a prick-tease. She might not go all the way.

Bacall: "A lot depends on who's in the saddle."

She goes back to the horse metaphor, but is essentially saying that her sexual response depends on the guy. For the right guy, she'll be an amazing lay. For the wrong guy, she won't put out at all.

You can look at that short scene here :

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=glmdhH3aOug

Note that while there is some non-verbal communication in terms of how they look at each other, the majority of the flirtation is verbal and in your face.

Another example from that scene :

Bogart: How are you today?

Bacall: Better than last night.

Bogart: I could agree on that.

[TimmyThomas]

What you are looking for is a way to flirt with men using words? I would suggest you start slow, but good way is to call the guy out using double entendre and sexual innuendo. It is a little safer and easier then just straight up flirting. Example...he says this is hard, you say something like, I know I am pretty, but that is fast...stupid I know, but it works with even the dumbest guys and it is easy.

So if you think that is too forward, the just laugh A LOT at his dumb jokes, say he funny, touch him, joke with him, talk about good dudes are hard to find etc...all that works.

Good luck!