How can I tell if a girl is shy, playing hard to get, not interested, or getting bored and annoyed?

[moviedude714]

It's very confusing, because almost all the time, girls seem to make it very extremely un-obvious whether they like a guy or dislike a guy, a lot of times it takes many guys a long time to realize that the girl likes him or dislikes him, rejected him, etc. It seems that girls always give non-verbal hints. Anyway, let me get to the point, how can I tell if a girl is not interested, getting bored, creeped out or annoyed? Or if she is shy or playing hard to get? Because I don't want to bother or creep out a girl, I don't want to get accused of stalking or harassing a girl, because I never want to do that. I would never stalk a girl, I never follow girls around. Because I often misinterpret a girl being shy meaning she is not interested and does not want anything to do with me, I get confused and have a hard time telling the difference. So what is a girls body language like, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc., like when she is not interested, getting annoyed or creeped out, is shy or playing hard to get? What are the obvious signs besides little or no eye contact, does not smile, never calls or texts you back? Are there any other signs?

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How can I tell?

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If a girl is not engaging me in conversation, she is not reciprocating, like she is only gives one-worded responses, little or no eye contact. Does that mean she is not interested? or could I be asking the wrong type of questions?

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Could it also mean I started the conversation the wrong way? What are good ways to approach a girl for the first time and start a conversation?

[EmmyAward]

Believe me if a girl is interested, even if she is shy you will know it. If you call a girl or text her and don't receive any messages back it's obvious that she is just not interested. Unfortunately sometimes it can be confusing because women will sometimes give their number out even if they aren't very interested just because they have a hard time rejecting someone or feel bad. Then they don't call you back or ever answer. I know we are weird sometimes. I don't think it's right to play games though. If I am interested I will make sure he knows it and if not I make it clear as well. If she hesitates when you ask for her number most likely she isn't very into you. For me if we make plans I don't break them unless something seriously bad comes up. So if she constantly backs out of plans that's another sign that this isn't the right person. Granted we all have to cancel sometimes but you know when someone is avoiding you I'm sure. Girls will smile a lot and laugh and really pay attention to you when you are talking if they are interested. If you guys have a common interest like tennis for example and you say something like we should play sometime, you can also tell by her response. If she's like yeah that would be fun let's do it then that's a green light. If she's like I no longer own a tennis racket and don't plan on buying one anytime soon she's probably trying to give you a brush off. There is a difference between playing hard to get and just plain impossible. Just trust in your instincts and you will do fine. Be confident and the worst thing someone can say is No. That simple. Then you can move on and find someone who is interested so don't worry too much about it.

[moviedude714]

Well one reason why I have a hard time is because I have never had a girlfriend before, I have always been single. Also what does it mean if a girl sends me a friend request on MySpace or Facebook? One girl did that recently, right now I feel like we are just good acquaintences, because I was the one who made the first move on her, I approached and went to go talk to her with the intention of being just friends, nothing more, but I hope I don't get stuck in the friend zone.

[EmmyAward]

Well the myspace or facebook thing may not be the best way to find a relationship to be honest. She could have sent you a friend request just as friends or it could be she wants to get to know you but I find it hard to find those things out online. I've gotten random requests from people many times so it could just be nothing. Things could easily get misunderstood online. When you talk to someone in person or over the phone you can read their tone. In an online chat or text it can be much harder

[moviedude714]

Yeah well I would not consider that request to be random, because she actually met me in person before she added me.

[Hahfjshs]

She looks at me with her friends sometimes looks down and smiles gets jealous but ignores my texts

[Anonymous]

Being an a shy girl I can understand why it may be so hard to read a shy girl. Typically if I am creeped out by a guy I give really curt answers, and my way of talking can off as being really mean. If I am creeped out my body language typically is crossing my arms over my body and positioning my body away from the guy and near some clear path out. My face would typically read as either an annoyed expression or a blank expression. If I am not interested in a guy, I am still nice, but don't give detailed answers to any questions, I position my body away from the guy and mostly look physically uncomfortable being there with him if he creeps me out or I'm not interested. If I am just being shy around a guy that I may like, I usually blush, talk in a lower tone of voice, make sporratic periods of eye contact, play with my hair or my hands a lot or even sometimes move my feet around and look down.

If she's really creeped out by you she may be cold around you not just shy. When I get uncomfortabe because some guy creeps me out, I get stoic, cold, and short tempered as well.

I hope some of this may have helped you...

[moviedude714]

So if you are not interested in a guy, do you still give him eye contact when he is talking to you? do you smile still smile? I think girls have it so much easier since they don't have to take the initiative.

[Opinion Owner]

I do some eye contact to be polite, but not nearly as much as when I am interested. If its a guy I'm not interested in I half smile too.

[moviedude714]

Well that is very confusing. There is this girl that I am unsure about, because on Facebook, she was the one who sent me a friend request, and when I sit down and talk to her, the conversations are not really complete, like there is always a lot of pauses, but so far she has always given me eye contact.

[Opinion Owner]

It also can depend on how long you have known her...

do you just talk like during a class or outside of one....

[moviedude714]

Well I don't have any classes with her, I only see her like once or twice a week, sitting at a table, either alone or with friends.

[apple_pineapple]

Being a shy girl, in love with a shy guy, love can be pretty complicated. I could write hours and hours on this but I'm going to give you a heads-up.
When I am around my crush I can be:
-A total bitch meaning I will avoid him all together
- A shy little teddy bear meaning I will be all shy and act really... strange?
- a total klutz or weirdo, no seriously I BALANCED A BOOK ON MY HEAD TO MY CRUSH'S DEMAND. YEAH REGRETS
- friendly and go along with the flow: my crush is literally the most friendliest yet shyest person ever

so, don't go on basing your decisions on what I specifically do as a person every girl is different. What I can tell you that if she doesn't put any effort or basically shows no emotions, you should go for another person, you're wasting your time. :)

[PinkMaggit]

Here's the magic trick that will save you endless hours of worrying about questions like these:

Stop trying to guess womens' motivations.

Here's how it works:

You meet Girl A and think she's cute. You ask her out. She doesn't answer your phone call for a few days. You call her *once* more, and *once* only. If she doesn't reply within a few days, scratch her name from your list forever, and move to Girl B.

Girl A might have been playing hard to get, might have been too busy, might have been disinteresed, might have been shy ... but her motivation doesn't matter. Behavior is what matters, and she chose to not respond to your calls. *Why* she didn't respond is completely irrelevant. If she doesn't want you in her life, it's her loss. Don't make time for people who don't make time for you.

This method will keep you more sane than any answer the women will give.

Trust me.

[moviedude714]

Yeah I am very over-analyitical, I really can't tell the difference between a girl who is just being friendly to me just to be nice, actually likes me as a friend, or likes me more than a friend. I have a hard time being able to tell if a girl is teasing me or leading me on. I think it's because I really want to have a girlfriend right now, and if a girl just likes me as a friend, I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone.

[PinkMaggit]

If you don't want to get stuck in the friend zone, follow my method:

Ask her out ASAP.

If she doesn't make time for you, don't wait around for her. Move on.

Staying out of the friend zone is 100% in a guy's power.

[moviedude714]

Makes sense, but how do I know when is the right time to ask her out? Like how will I know I have not fallen into the friend zone yet?

[PinkMaggit]

Ask her out *As Soon As Possible* to avoid the friend zone. The moment you know you like her -- within hours or days of meeting her. No more than 1 week.

The longer you wait, the more excuses you'll make to not ask her.

As her out quickly. If she's not interested, move on without her.

I learned this all the hard way...

[PinkMaggit]

Put differently:

There is no "right time" except for when you know you like her.

If you wait for the "right time," that time will usually never come ... all the while, you're getting more attached to her but you don't know if the interest is one-sided.