I can surely relate to you Hun! I am in the same boat as you... I feel like my life hit a pause too since I graduated from undergrad!:( even with the guys I have no luck.. I feel so empty and have no drive to do anything anymore I feel like giving up as well:( it's so discouraging and depressing... I don't know what to tell you since I'm stuck in the same situation but id say do something that you like I tried to look up some groupons for some classes like workout or language anything that makes you happy! I know I have friends but they only there for time being since everyone of them are busy with their lives hmm.. Just go out by yourself and do something fun I know it will look as if ur poor and lonely soul but u do need that getaway psychologically! Don't over think princess:) everything's gon be alright! Life is a roller coaster it has it's ups and downs! Be happy smile and also sometimes it's ok to cry and scream and let it out! I usually go to parks sit in the parking lot and scream a lot it calms me down.. Do you know what is that thing that's bothering you?
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is there something you really want , maybe a serious relationship or do you feel chained down by something? i went through this phase a few months ago. mine lasted around 7 months. try to think about all the things you used to do before this funk started. start doing them again- one by one. initially, you might not find the same enthusiasm you once had but slowly you will start getting back. Also, try to make some changes in your life. I stopped hiding negative feelings. I started confronting people i was upset with. I started saying no to people. I also started going out there- doing things i have always wanted do, met lots of people. Now, i can confidently say im out of the funk. sometimes i do get the feeling back - maybe for a few hours, but no where as much as before.
Make a list of all the things you want to change. Pick ONE item from that list. It should be something that's fairly easy to accomplish in a relatively short amount of time. Work and devote your energy to fixing that ONE item. It's important you have success with the 'low hanging fruit' item. From there, you'll feel much better with the sense of accomplishment, and the ego boost that comes with it. Then, pick the NEXT thing on your list. Keep going till you're done.
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If it becomes an ongoing thing ( more than 3 months ) you need to see your doctor. It could be a physical or mental issue. Talking it out may help, you could find a therapist to help you explore why you're feeling so disenchanted with life. Writing in a journal would help. Try and set yourself small goals that are within reason each day. Example - today I will ride a bike for 15 mins. Or today I will clean my car. These little goals will help you get the feeling of achieving something. As you become more motivated you can start to set those goals higher. Another option would be to hire a life coach to help you out of the slump. I hope you feel better very soon!
for me when i lack motivation.. images usually work for me. i cut some pictures and put it on my journal or i always imagine/visualize myself achieving whatever i want to achieve. it does not always work though but it really helps me.
It hard to tell where your feeling your lacking tho?
You need to conide sometimes in someone and just vent. Then maybe keep busy go out make new friends keep busy until what you want comes into play rather it can be working or going to school or both being with family. Etc. it about what makes you happy and taking steps to get where you wanna beYou left out a lot of details here.
There must be someone (RL) you can turn to for help in finding your life goals.Do you have friends you can confide in? It helps to talk to people
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