After we were married, he said he kept them in case he ever wanted to be with them again & they were all better than me in different ways. ie. "tightness" "beauty" "breast size"... I asked why he married me if he wasn't satisfied sexually, and he said, "All of your other traits are great and I want my kids to have those traits instead. It doesn't matter how you are in bed to me." which explains why he hasn't exactly been enthusiastic about going to the bedroom all this time, and honestly, I am hurt that he seems to not care about my physical needs or desires since he won't ever initiate or show much interest in me physically.
Since talking to him about this, I've been feeling low and I know I'm a good wife, he allows me to stay at home and take care of our son, I clean, cook, support him, and am faithful to him completely. But I can't help but feel empty inside and lied to for so long. He hasn't touched me since then and I miss it because at times he is romantic when he wants to be. He seems bad here, but he overall is great in all other aspects of our marriage.
Ladies: Would you remain in the marriage if all of your other needs are being met EXCEPT sex and intimacy?
Guys: Do you see anything wrong with how my husband treats me, or do you just consider it honesty?
I'm the one in the relationship and it's hard for me to discern if this is a problem or not because I can't look at it objectively.
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Lose weight. That's the biggest turn-off for men. Period, full stop.
If a woman I was dating started putting on weight, I'd tell her to lose it. If she got fat anyway, I'd show her the door. Women KNOW that men don't want fat chicks, so when they get fat they are basically saying that they have no respect for him and don't care what he likes or wants. I won't waste my time on someone that disrespects me.
Very shallow, but that's not the case here since I never said I put on weight, and that wasn't the issue being addressed. I hope you're as upfront about it in real life as you are on the internet.
Oh don't worry, I am. If a fat chick tries to get my attention, she gets a look of abject disgust before I turn away. Or if I'm in a particularly playful mood, I'll troll the hell out of her.