How can I get rid of my fear of being touched?

[enirikiu]

<< Note: I put this in health because it fits in the topic of Psychological Health. >>

Over the past few years, ever since high school started, I've been busy, I don't really ever hang out with friends, and I don't interact with my family so much anymore because of my workload. Historically, I've never liked sleeping near or in the same room as other people at night, and if anyone touches me too much at all, even family, I will develop a slight loathing for that. I don't hug people for months on end, and when I do, it feels awkward and I immediately regret hugging the person.

In general, I am also a socially awkward person, but am still well-liked by peers and teachers. A few days, ago, I tried to test my level of comfort with touching someone for a long time, and after I did that, I hugged them, and left. However, it took me until the very next day to realize I didn't like touching others like that and I felt disgusted. I am feeling guilty right now, but I told the person I will not be touching them for a long period of time.

Right then, I realized that it's not just that person that I'm afraid of touching. I'm scared of touching everyone. I know this is going to be a problem in many ways when I graduate high school, and maybe even in the near future. How can I help alleviate this fear of mine? Any tips, ideas, suggestions, or comments? Any and all appreciated. Thanks!

[milopiano]

Take it slow, please, perhaps try to talk it over with someone, or write about it and review your thoughts. Maybe start gradual? A tap on the shoulder, a quick handshake?

Maybe see if any friends have a small child or little sibling! Little ones are usually quote eager to hug anyone and anything, so if you feel comfortable enough, try to receive a hug from a little toddler.

There is nothing purer than the innocence of a little kid giving you a hug, so maybe try that? Or you could go get your nails done, it might help you get used to someone touching you? Hope this helps! :)

[silencemylove]

I agree with the guy above. you know the problem break it down and understand it mentally then slowly try to do things that would allow touch. slowly

[super147]

The reality is that you may not be able to take this on by yourself, you may well need some help in the form of therapy. In order to correct this problem you would need to fully understand the root cause. You may already know that but we don't and hence it would be very hard for us to work out how you reverse the tide.

Even if you do know the root cause, you may have no idea how to unpick years of negative behavioural patterns. That is where a professional comes in.

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

You need to be interacting with other people, make friends who has the same interest as you, just go with the flow. You've been alone for so long, it made you have anxiety with other people. Face the fear I think it would be better to seek professional help to make any significant steps.

[Anonymous]

Just remember, fear... is a mind killer