Guys what is the limit of interfering in each others' lives?

[meyra]

he has depression, blaming himself, really in a struggling job blah blah.. he drinks a lot, gambling and paying credits because of that, have some dark friends... also divorced and sometimes it seems to me that it is normal, as I cannot forget my ex (and my first) sometime.. I wanted to talk to him that he has to pay attention to his own life and health.. he responds not good.. he is not a looser all the time but very close when he is under deep pressure.. should you warn him? or what is your recommended action on this?

[awaken03]

if you're no longer in a relationship with that guy, you can only do so little in helping him..either you talk to him and give him a good advise or just be there when he needs you..best not to pressure yourself helping him..it's his life and he made those choices on his own..you can guide him to get back with his life and show him to right thing to do..but he needs to process things on his own..considering him lucky to have someone like you still around for him even things turnout for the worst =)

[Coopherst91]

I think it really depends on how much you wanna put yourself out there. I mean in all fairness he doesn't owe you the time of day. On the other hand it is noble of you to think about him and want him to do well and possibly help him? I'm not sure so basically if he wants to listen he can but if he wants to be depressed and gamble there isn't really much you can do besides try and get him to let you in? I hope I helped

[meyra]

i think it will be better to talk with him... I am scared of an emotional outburst of him leading to a severe depression, which will inturn have an effect on me.. people are free but I feel insecure because of his such actions.. I am selfish in this regard, all I want is a normal life! this is not controlling but unfortunately he will think that I try to control him:( what a dilemma!

[Coopherst91]

Well good, let me know what happens I am rooting for you. I hope you know what you're doing and good luck!