my wife won't let me hang with my female best friend, who I knew for a long time. we went to each other's weddings, helped each other in college, and even introduced each other to our significant others. we hang out a lot by going to dinner and movies. my wife yelled at me for doing so, and I had to sneak out to hang with her, or come home late from work. I do hang with other friends besides my wife and my best friend. her husband is also angry at us for spending time together. my wife even slapped me when I came home late when we went to drinks together.
Most Helpful Girl
This is just how it is when you're in a committed relationship, especially when you're married. Spending alone time with someone of the opposite gender almost always comes off bad. Someone is going to get jealous and suspicious, especially when alcohol is involved... I mean, I'm not really sure how their reactions are surprising you.
There's no real easy solution, aside from sneaking around and lying about where you go I guess, if you're really desperate to have that alone time together. Of course if you get caught, that looks pretty bad. Otherwise just start hanging out as couples, have your wife and her husband come along.1
Most Helpful Guy
You are cheating. Why would you have a female best friend? Having casual female friends is fine, but not hanging out with them on dates when you're married. Would you want your wife going out with another guy? Of course not. Stop screwed around with other women or be prepared for your wife to leave you.1