How often does the average married couple fight?

[freedom]

Is there an argument reason every now and then or after a while you simply get used to living together and be more compatible with each other?

[DishLady]

It depends on the couple and what their situation is.


For example, couples who face financial constraints face very real stresses that prevent them from enjoying life — and one another — so there may be regular (monthly) all-out arguments when the time to review and pay bills comes around coupled with more frequent (weekly) jabs about financial constraints, jobs, habits that cost money, etc. etc. There may also be some passive aggression peppered in there out of sheer frustration. It's super difficult to pull away from that kind of dynamic even if both people love each other deeply because the stress of life is pushing them down. If they can manage to leverage the arguments as strategic learning moments they have a chance to pull through, but that's very rare. (And fair warning that the relationship could grow too toxic to bear.)


Next are annoying habitual issues or cyclicar arguments like the guy not putting down the seat when he's done… the gal using his razor on her legs because it's just there on the counter, blah blah. Those can be annoying but endeering in the end. For instance, when the guy is away on business the gal misses the seat being up or the mess on the bathroom counter because it's a reminder he's not there to "annoy" her. (And vice versa.)



Next are the minor eye-rollers. A common one is when one person misses an important dinner because of work or forgets to pick something up that was crucial for a special event … etc. etc. etc. These are normal "annoyances" that every couple goes through.


Last are the lapses in communication — and these you have to pay attention to when you're just starting out, this way you build good habits for the future. My best example is a personal one from my grandparents' time…. They were notoriously getting their signals crossed throughout their courting phase and well into the first year of their marriage… Everyone in the family still gathers around annually to tell that story because we obviously wouldn't all be here if they hadn't figured themselves out.


Clear communication is key to navigating a "fight" productively and coming out of it more deeply connected than you went into it. It takes time… patience… humor… and sometimes a clue or two to figure out where the other person is coming from, but ultimately if both people keep at it everything works out just fine.

[jennifer_bloom]

I read or heard that marriages that last long term have 5 times as many positive interactions as negative ones. Not sure I believe it cause most of the marriages that I have seen are far less prosperous than that.

[Purpleronnie]

Depends on what people categorise as an argument? .. coming from a broken home I think my perception may be skewed but by comparison I have Never had an argument. Sure I have had disagreements and differences of opinion but those are dealt with and swiftly moved past , not brushed over but “dealt” with.


By that rationale I don’t think that there is ever a need for an “Arguement” the key being that everything is put out in the open for discussion so that there is no misunderstanding and we are unified on how we tackle things as a couple.


I’m not married though , but after 13 years together and going strong I may as well be.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you asking about "fighting" or just having conflict? Not every couple has a fight when they disagree.

[CriticalCatDad123]

My parents fought all the time up until they got divorced. I don't live with my parents but I'm sure my dad and step mom disagree on things all the time but I've never seen them fight like my mom and dad did. I'm sure my dad adheres to the "Happy wife happy life" sexist mantra. My mom doesn't plan on having another relationship. She seems to be like me in that regard.

[electromagnetic]

I think every couple of different.
We can go weeks without without a single disagreement. Then outta the blue, we are beefing for 1weeks straight cause I’m right and he’s wrong. 😆

[OfMiceandMen]

It was a very rare thing for me to ever get into anything heated. My wife knew that I would not fight. I like to keep a calm cool head, even if we had disagreements. Only hurtful things come out when things get heated.

[Seinna]

I almost never fight with my husband because we have common values and want the same things in life. Some small disagreements happen maybe every couple of months but it's really nothing serious. Marriage is easy when you find the right person.

[katiesmuff]

Dave and I go weeks without having an argument and those are minor like one of us spending too much time at work and getting frazzled.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd like to imagine the average married couple is probably always one phone call away from divorce lol 😔😆 with their divorce lawyer on speed dial lol aka saved contact list lol 🤣🤣😆

[Nikki1989]

I have no idea. The married people I know never seem to fight, and my husband and I are going on 10 years without one single fight.

[MsProsperity]

Whoa 10 years? lol is that even possible?

[Anonymous]

I know a married couple who fight almost everyday. The woman who happens to be my sister is quite toxic.

[sheikalana]

A few times a year. Maybe once every two-three months.

[Unit1]

They certainly fight enough for the divorce rates to reach 50% 🤔

[TonyMetal___86]

It doesn't matter as long as they believe that they are together forever...

[Whitedog1]

About 2-3 times per week but efforts made to avoid them.

[IslaTheWitch]

depends on people and their tempers...

[JacobJordan]

Anywhere from daily to never.

[AngryCarl]

My parents never fought.

[strateguy632]

weekly