My boyfriend doesn't spend money on me, instead wants me to do it.

Whenever we go out, whether it be movie, lunch or any other place, it is me who pays the bills or buys the tickets.1 out of 10 times he does it. he is in another city for studies and comes to our city sometimes.(his hometown and mine as well). So ours is a kind of long distance relationship. we have to make STD calls. He always wants me to call him and he never calls me. If he does it is me who gets his phone recharged. if I spent 500rupees on calling him, he spends 100rupees.

I have given him a lot many gifts till now, but he has given me only 3-4 and that too of the total of not more than 1500 rupees. (Indian).

When he is in another city he asks me too call him and when I ask y doesn't he call, he says he doesn't have money.

He asks me to send him money as he claims that he don't have enough money for his expenditure. In starting I did send him money. Once I sent 600, once 500, once 200 and once 300. but after that I stopped sending him.

( I am also a student like him, and we both don't have any earnings. we are dependent on what we get from our parents, I cut from my needs and pay the bills and call him and send him money)

He lives alone in that city and I live with my parents. So it is comparatively easier to manage money by compensating for those who live in hotel or alone.

He goes out with his friends for movies and restaurants (sometimes). Buys nice clothes and other things for himself. from where do he get the money for all this when he don't have for me. he sometimes smokes and drinks, where from he get the money, I don't understand.

i have sometimes indicated him that he should pay the bill sometimes and all. Also told him directly that you get the phone recharged and call me, I am not going to do it, then he says, how will he do when he don't have money and says that I am talking cheap and being money-minded.

I don't want him to give me lavish gifts and take me for lunch to five star hotels, but I just want to feel like a girlfriend because I have heard that boys do this for girls.

I don't want him to do all the expenditures bu at least something.



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  • That sounds like a total use of your love. (sorry about that)

    I don't know how is the relation, but you never mentioned anything about having fun with him, or enjoying something.

    Only money money money, first of all. You don't need to spend money AT ALL. There are plenty of ways to enjoy time without going to a movie, restaurant, or always to buy presents.

    I can't even believe that he enjoys getting money from you. Try to pass time with him without using money, like going to a park or doing some home activity.

    If he doesn't like it, he doesn't like you, but your money.