Am I the problem, is he the problem or are we both?

[Anonymous]

hey ya’ll, my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 years and we used to go out a lot and go on little adventures now as of three years, we haven’t. i’ve asked him why and he says sorry that we will again but then we don’t. sometimes he says he doesn’t have money but then will be $16-$20 worth of beer everyday. i’m not asking him to spend so much money on me, but why can’t we get fast food and go to the park? instead he will sleep all day then go hang out with his friends all night. i must admit, i haven’t shown him appreciation because i don’t feel appreciated. i complain a lot because we don’t do anything but will go out to eat with his friends. is the reason he doesn’t take me out on dates because i complain/ i don’t appreciate him? or in his mind i’m not worth it?

[sheikalana]

He's acting like an immature teenager. Needs to man up. He's probably bored in the relationship and doesn't feel motivated to do those things anymore. Try to plan your next holidays together in advance.

[nobodythenomad]

100 percent must be a guy from the south.

Go without him. He will follow.

[Reem12345reem]

his true colors are showing

[Asker]

after 7 years? 😔

[Reem12345reem]

there's no point in staying , from my perspetive ur being manipulated , when a person promises u things and never doing them , ur being manipulated (and the thing u asked is a bare minimum , a man would do anything to make u happy bc they're wired like that , hormones and masculine energy) do u really want a man like that to provide for your future kids? he stays all day sleeping? think about it , he's just saying anything to make u stay , if he's aslo promising u to change and he never changed then that's also manipulation , if i wanted to keep a woman , and i know im not serious about her i would lie to make her stay , it;s so eay to lie , wasting time on people who don't respect u and that aren't delivering their promises isn't the best thing to do , and these type of rltps makes it seem like u can't get better than this , if ur not happy and he's not treating u right and he KNOWS that u have a problem but he's not doing anything then why are u still with him? decide to let go , years doesn't matter in a rltp if ur miserable in it , and he might be a narcissist, I know this girl who dated a guy for 4 years and they were a perfect couple but he ended up vanishing and he blocked her , till this day she can't contact him , turns out he was just a narcissist, and when had flashbacks from their rltp , she became aware of how he would manipulate her , I advise u to just be more aware and look at the red flags