As of today, I am 30 years old. When I reflect back on my 20's I realize that there's so much I learned about myself. I decided to write a few of the many lessons I have learned throughout the whole decade that helped mold me into the woman I am today. I will also speak about what I expect from my 30's as I move through another decade in that age range.
What I loved about being in my 20's
As a child, you're under your parents wing. When situations grow difficult, they step in to offer their input and provide resolutions to the problems. When I became of age, I became more independent. I became a working young woman, and had difficult encounters where I couldn't look over my shoulder for my Mommy or Daddy. As an adult, I learned to deal with situations that became hard. I learned to find my voice. This was crucial in my development as an adult because it allowed me to better see how the world worked.
For children, life starts before they are born, by this I mean it starts in their mother's womb. A woman has to start making the right choices with her body when she finds out that she is pregnant. By this I mean, she must avoid substances and activities that can be harmful for her developing fetus.
Several months after turning age 22, I found out I was pregnant. This was expected of course, because my chosen birth control method failed. Despite, not being ready for a baby I wanted to keep it. I hid my pregnancy for 2 months from my Mother until I told her. This was the hardest thing I ever had to do, because I knew she wouldn't be okay with my decision. Although, I was an adult she saw me as a young girl, who needed to complete her education. She thought having a baby would get in the way of it. She kept my pregnancy a secret from my Dad for 5 more months, until she finally revealed to him that I was pregnant. He never confronted me about the issue, but I knew he wasn't pleased either. I spent more than a great portion of my pregnancy, living with my parents and having to hide my expanding belly by wearing clothes far bigger in size until she finally did tell him. The entire time, I was afraid that he'd abandon me and tell me to leave his home.
When he didn't react the way that I thought and kept silent, I was astonished. My Father was the one who drove me to the hospital where I stayed in labor for 19 1/2 hours. When my child was born, both of my parents immediately fell in love with him. I became a stay at home Mom for 4 1/2 years. It was again, one of the hardest things I had to ever do in my life. I took care of my child by myself all day, every day because the Father was working long hours. I learned that a part of being a good parent, is to have patience with your child. When you have that, every thing else comes much more smoothly. When my child turned 4 years old and started Pre-Kindergarten, at age 27 I decided to go back and continue my college education. Becoming a Mother, helped mold me into not making selfish decisions. I learned to put myself second to the new life I bought into this world.
Going through life, and all of the many challenges I have faced (which were not mentioned here), allowed me to grow confidence. In my early twenties, I was learning to find my place in this world as an adult, nearing the end of it I was fully aware of who I was and what I wanted out of life; that was and is the most precious gift I could ever received. I mean to know who you are, and be secure of it, is an amazing feeling. I learned to live life, and not let it live me. I learned to be okay with the decisions that I made. I learned to understand it's okay if the world isn't okay with what you're doing, as long as you're not hurting any one , then you have every right to live just the way you want to.
What I expect to achieve during my 30's
I hope to have another kid in a few years. I want to proudly show off this baby bump. I don't want to feel the need to have to walk around and hide it. I didn't get to enjoy my last pregnancy to its fullest extent. I feel robbed of all of the joy I was supposed to have. Every feeling I had through out my body during that time, was one of fear. I was in fear, that my parent's would disown me.
As a woman that's more accomplished, I know that won't happen again. I'll enjoy my second pregnancy. Hopefully, it's as good to me as the first.
I never got sick and was able to move around efficiently up until a few weeks before giving labor.
I hope to continue excelling in my career, and further move up in the health field. I hope to exceed my capabilities by far. I hope to never let my appearance go. I plan to hold on to it as long as possible by self grooming, healthy eating habits and exercise. I know often times, life gets so hectic, so much so that we forget about ourselves.
We have to keep ourselves right, because if we don't what happens to our children?
I hope to never forget that.
I hope to never abandon myself in anyway.
I hope to continue to watch my kid grow, and help mold him into the fine young adult I know he can be. By the end of my 30's, he will be nearing the legal age. I know it won't be easy raising a teenager but I am ready!
I want to stand back and watch the beautiful flower blossom. As of today, as a small young child he makes me so proud! One of my biggest joys is him. I want to live every waking moment to see all of his milestones. I want to be the best I can be at everything. I will accept nothing less.