So yesterday I had an argument with my mom. It all started when I asked if I could get my ears pierced.
The whole debacle is rooted in my being transgender. I've recently started expressing more female, and apparently this is worse than me being unhappy with my wardrobe options. I have painted my nails, and I wear bracelets and rings and my mannerisms have tilted toward "stereotype fem" which is what it's seemed to require for my mom to believe that I'm female.
Yesterday I woke up and had a generally normal morning and afternoon. Then I had the bright idea to ask to get my ears pierced. There was a short "normal" talk followed closely by a barrage of comments as to how I'm lying about it, and that she will never believe it, and she never has. My sister, and my mom's gay assistant were in the room. She asked him for help on the subject, and when he didn't say what she wanted to have as her backup, she got more angry at me.
This is a very long way of saying that I'm scared to be myself. Share similar experiences in the comments! Or if you have any advice?
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I think you need to do what makes you happy! Sometimes we have close friends and family that have views completely different from ours. But that doesn't mean you need to be what they want you to be. If you feel like a female emotionally and mentally. Then you should go for it. We're talking getting your ears pierced. It's not like your asking your mom to let you get a boob job. Be strong and know that you can find support. I know your moms opinion means a lot to you, but she shouldn't make you feel the way she is. On the contrary, she should at least try to be a little open minded and try to understand you better.
You need to start taking hormones before you get much older, otherwise when you finally get the operation it'll be too late and you'll just look like a bloke in drag.
Sometime a guy really needs to just man up! You were born a man so start acting like a man. I would think that it would be much harder for a guy to act feminine? Why are you torturing yourself?
How would you feel if you were born in a female body, could you go through your entire life acting like a woman?
@Bezbozhnikustanka Probably...